I’m a single mom who has recently entered the online dating world (Catholic Match). After nearly 8 years of being single, I felt drawn to be open to the possibility that God could be calling me to sacramental marriage. I’ve had a decree of nullity for seven years now, but no dating.
So far, it’s been kind of fun…sort of…I think… I’m a bit ambivalent about the whole thing, which has given me a certain freedom to just be myself, not trying to impress or be someone I’m not so as to “catch” a certain man.
But I did meet one man, spent an absolutely lovely afternoon of hiking together in the area, went to mass together, exchanged 150+ emails, and then he just disappeared. Ouch. My emotions over the experience of being infatuated and then ignored blindsided me – I’m the strong one. I’m the down-to-earth one. I’m The Mom! – and suddenly I was teary and uncertain and insecure of my worth.
I tried to carry on as usual with my son, but he definitely noticed that my spirits were lower, my usual cheerleader-level enthusiasm dampened. I haven’t said a thing to him about dating.
So how do single parents date and enter into a courtship? Should they even try? Or is dating while children are still in school just a distraction to one’s first vocation, that of parent?
What are your thoughts and experiences? Do you have any advice?