So my sister lives with her boyfriend. She has lived with him for 4 years, and I know they have a sexual relationship. Obviously, it comes with all the usual stuff - they use contraception, think nothing of abortion, don't want children, think marriage is for old people. On top of that, he is anti-Catholic and anti-religion.
Now, my sister really does struggle. She tries going to Mass, and does so, then stops going for a few months, then starts again. It's start stop. And it's the same with prayer, she says she prays the rosary then forgets about it for long. She hasn't been properly catechized, because I wasn't and I instructed myself through research this past year.
Now. I have a few concerns. I mean, my sister grew up with my mom and I grew up with my dad. We both missed out on that parent relationship. We both went through divorce etc, and my sister always had a particularly hard time with things. One day I spoke to her about her boyfriend and their relationship, because I know my dad is too scared to do it fearing that he might ruin their relationship. My sister kind of half acknowledged that she is living in sin and that spiritually this guy isn't good for her. But she ended the conversation telling me that he is her life and she couldn't live without him. Obviously, not a very healthy relationship but particularly when we consider the Catholic angle.
So what can I do? I mean, this guy - as nice as he is - is not the guy I want my sister to marry or be with. Fine, he lets her practise her faith, but that means nothing. He tolerates it. He is not the man I want my sister to be with, and I know it hurts my dad to know that my sister lives in sin and he doesn't want to say anything in fear of losing her. But I can say something. I can correct her, can't I? Fraternal correction - christian charity demanding that we correct our Christian brethren.
I just think it very unhealthy, even without the Catholic element. But add that in, that in all likelihood he is dragging her away from the faith (reminds me of the Screwtape Letters) and she is struggling internally to face the truth. I mean arg. Just makes one feel helpless.