I am ashamed to admit I am having a hard time forgiving my sister.
She told me the other day that I am “giving in” to my Rheumatoid Arthritis and she doesn’t understand how it could get so bad in less than a year. It has been implied by both my sisters that I am exaggerating about the progression of the RA.
She also said that “everyone” (probably everyone in my family= parents, 2 sisters, brother-in-law) have noticed especially that my husband has been doing more to help (even though he has always helped). She said that I order him around to do everything. My dear husband disagrees strongly with that.
It really hurt my feelings as I have never been one to wallow in self pity. it has gotten much worse in the last year and I will begin medicine next month to help (Dr. was waiting until time was right). Maybe I have been talking about it more with her but we have always talked about our issues with each other. She calls me at least twice a week about her problems with family, etc.
She was also upset because I have asked her to pick up my little girl from preschool, as her son goes to the same preschool, and drop her off to my house. I work from home 25 hours a week and it is about 6-7 minutes for her to do so, so it is very helpful for me not to wake up the baby to take him out and quit working. I even offer her gas money. I can understand if she doesn’t want to do this but she has said I ask her to do this every day of school (3x a week), which isn’t true.
Anyway, my husband is really upset because he says she doesn’t see what goes on in our home and he is furious because she said “everyone has noticed”, leaving me paranoid that others are talking aobut me.
She has fibromyalsia (sp) and says she understands about chronic pain but that I should get over it. However there are certain days when my joints hurt so badly that it is hard to hide the pain.
It is really causing a lot of tension and I am having a hard time with it. I have already decided not to disclose information to her or ask her to pick up my daughter from school.
I could use some advice, I am feeling a little sensitive, so please charitable posts only. :o