Well, for those of you who helped me with advice on “Should I attend my sister’s second wedding?” I took your advice and spoke with her.
In a loving, caring way, I told her that I’m very concerned for her. If something tragic happened to her, I truly believe that her soul would go to hell. All I want for her is to be in heaven someday.
It went over like a lead balloon!
I allowed her to vent her frustrations, but she couldn’t get past the emotional part to even try and grasp where I was coming from. She coulnd’t even respect that I may have a different opinion other then hers.
She told me that she doesn’t believe she is committing any sin. She said that she doesn’t believe that God would put someone so wonderful in her life, and in her daughters’ lives, and have it considered a sin. I told her that this man is a gift. But we need to have a good means to a good end. God isn’t the one making this situation a sin!
Never once did I tell her what to do. Don’t want to be accused of judging!!!
She was so cold and full of venom. Every time she raised her voice, I told her we should hang up and try the discussion another time. (We do not live in the same area. I’d prefer a face-to-face.) I always ended it with a loving comment. She would fire back something mean.
I told her about the priests that I talked to, the prayers, the time spent in adoration, and all of you on Catholic Forum.
I told her that I would come only after I told her my fears. I believe that it is my right to defend my faith.
At the same time, I told her that my children will not attend, they will stay behind with my husband. I am the parent to them and they come first.
She wouldn’t accept it. She was so full of self-pity by this time. It didn’t matter that I told her it was not a rejection of her or her fiancee.
I reminded her of the time my husband turned down the roll of being an attendant in his childhood’s friend’s wedding. The friend was disappointed but never angry. We have had to stand our ground on faith before and we will again in the future.
All I could do was just cry for her when I got off of the phone. Her heart seems so dark and distant from God. I have never truly been aware of hell as I was while I talked to her.
Now for the mult-million dollar question, would you still attend this wedding?
I have an appt. scheduled with my pastor for Thurs. morning. I need some more advice from him since this conversation.
My basic feeling is, I truly believe, right now, if she were to die, she would be in hell. And I do not say this easily. Please, please, please pray for her that she may see the truth before it is to late.