[quote="LongJohnSilver, post:1, topic:208553"]
I spend a few days with a girl I already knew, and we were forced to have a lot of time together. We would laugh a lot, talk a lot and shared personal and faith related stories. We just had a wonderful time and became very close (in a purely personal and spiritual manner, nothing physical). Sounds like you two were on the road to becoming true friends, not acquaintances. Sometimes we would look each other in the eyes and I felt we definitely had a 'click'.
This encouraged me to tell her a few days later that I was beginning to develop feelings for her, and I had good hopes that she was experiencing the same since I thought that our time together was pretty special and that she would feel the same way about it.Okay, whoa! Slow down here. After a few days you told her you had feelings for her? Perhaps you should have kept that to yourself for a while longer... But she said she was pretty shocked and told me that this was just 'friendship' for her.This may not be what you wanted to hear from her, but I'm sure that she probably was not thinking along the same lines as you were and WAS shocked by your words. Now, she is not the type to flirt just for the attention, so I guess I was misjudging the situation and putting too much meaning to the things we had together. It sounds to me like this may be the case. You have to learn that friendship is a very important part of a relationship and that for some people that is going to take a longer amount of time than a couple of days. (Yes, I know it happens for some people more quickly, but not for all. )
This has happend to me once before. And again, it may have been too much too soon for that girl too. A lot of times, the girl is the one that is "waiting around" for the guy to realize that she wants more than friendship, so for you to be the one to want more so early in the friendship may be putting these girls off. Perhaps they don't feel they know you enough for you to be announcing your feelings of "more than friends." Just slow down.
Now I am wondering if this type of hanging out together to a girl is much more normal than it is for me. I think that it is. I don't know if these are the only experiences you have had with girls like this, but these days, lots of girls like having guys for friends and nothing more. It may be difficult for you to judge the difference now if you are not used to it, but over time you will begin to know when it is more. Be patient. You sound kind of young. And that makes me wonder how I'll ever find out when a girl really likes me and is interested in more than friendship. You will know . You will know because she will be the one that lets you know. Not saying that girls need to make the first move, only that in your case, that may be what should happen. And then someday, you will be able to know for yourself if she is interested.
May God bless you and guide you.