[quote=Princess_Abby]Keep in mind there are four "C"s to diamond buying…carat, cut, clarity and color. You might consider getting a diamond that also has a certificate to authenticate that you’re buying what the jeweler SAYS you’re buying; such as GIA, EGL, NAJA.
Oh, and look at the ring or stone under a 10x scope to see if the flaws are huge once magnified 10x…such as cracks or clouds. Then once you know where they are, take a look without it and be sure it really looks flawless to the naked eye afterward.
Also, try to get a bonded diamond. That way if anything happens to the ring–it’s lost, stolen, damaged, the stone falls out of it’s setting, etc., the jeweler will usually replace in full according to whatever their policy is. Sometimes the only requirement to keep the ring bonded is to come in every six months and allow the jeweler to sign off after the jeweler inspects it. Other times there is no requirement and you can come in at any time with an issue and they’ll do damage control.
ANyway…that said…and I’m sure you knew all of the above…congrats! Is it right to think you’re considering a Christmas engagement?
Wow, good info. Thanks. I have a “metrosexual” buddy (who’s one of the most masculine guys I’ve ever known) who says the specs I gave him should make this diamond much more expensive. I saw the official card, so I know they’re not scamming me, except that they say the “sale” price is only good through tomorrow. Whatever. :rolleyes:
As far as my hesitancy, well, I’ve discovered a great many things about myself over the last year or so, and one is that I’m very selfish. I don’t WANT to give up all my time. I don’t WANT to grow up and be responsible. I’m also a strange mixture of arrogant and insecure–on one hand, (and please take this with a grain of salt) women seem to like me and I’ve rarely had a difficult time finding dates. On the other, I have profound doubts about my ability to provide for a wife and children. I’m a WRITER, after all.
But with this girl, “Grace,” she’s virtually the whole package. And she isn’t just someone who meets all the points on a checklist–she actually makes me want to overcome all my pettiness, arrogance and selfishness. I think she’s the best person I’ve ever known, too.
I also hesitate because sometimes it’s like we’ve come from different worlds. She was homeschooled in a non-denominational, yet very fundamentalist home. I’m from public schools in a relatively stronger Catholic home, and I did the usual tour through debauchery in college and immediately afterward. Our cultural references don’t mesh that often (but that actually gives rise to some pretty funny situations). She’s also “city” and I’m “country.” I like simple and functional, she likes brand names and elegance. I like that stuff, too, but if it weren’t for her deep faith, I’d probably think she was too materialistic.
That said, I have all the latest gadgets, and I like 'em. So, who am I kidding here.
Perhaps the biggest hesitancy I have is that we live in D.C. For now, it’s right where I need to be. The other day I was joking with Cal Thomas the day Condi Rice visited my place of work. Not too long ago I was in an elevator with Ed Meese III. That stuff is incredibly interesting to me, but someday I’d like to get back home to the Pacific Northwest and be near my family. I’ve been “on the road” for a very long time now. It’s been about 15 years since I’ve been around the mountains and now my little cousins are all having kids. She doesnt’ want to move–her family’s here. (However, marrying me might just cause them to finally cut her off completely–long story).
As for her RCIA, last night she told the priest that she wanted to go from the “inquiry” stage to “catachumen.” She’s serious about it.