One of my friends from school had his b-day party tonight. (He’s 14. Most of us are already past him, but you couldn’t tell by looking.) It was awesome. We hung out, played Guitar Hero, blasted some music, had cake, ran around his neighborhood–all the essentials.
But I noticed something that really got to me. There were five or six guys and three girls. (That’s not it.) And the guys kept saying things or doing things that were pretty tacky in my mind. Keep in mind that all of them are Christians in name (two–one girl and one guy–are Catholic). Like, they would sit in each other’s laps, make suggestive jokes (being an eighth grader, I’m more than used to sexual remarks and humor, but it was different, especially having the girls there joining in), and the girls were… well, all over each other. If that makes sense. I felt like they were performing for us and trying to make it look natural.
I’m lucky to have two or three awesome Christian friends that were there that were able to have fun without really sinking to this level.
Chastity isn’t my strongest area by any stretch of the imagination, but I hate this kind of thing and steered clear of it. I see the potential in girls to be like Mary, to be strong like her and so in love with God, and so I can’t stand when they give in and give up like that. It makes me wonder where they’re headed.
I had fun. We all did. But I… I don’t know. I feel like I needed to rant. It was all so hypocritical. I mean, in a lot of ways, it’s the same at school. I could mention that I believe in evolution in science class and the same guy checking out the girl in front of me could go ape (no pun intended ) and start ranting on about how it’s all lies. But outside of school, it’s different. There are no bounderies, and I feel like I saw a side of one of my really good friends (Riley) that I’ve never seen before. I was sad that she of all people was getting into this. She’s meant for so much better.
Anyway, do you have any thoughts on this sort of thing? Any similar experiences?