Firstly, I apologize for the length of this post. I hope you all take the time to read it and participate.
PART 1 (OF 3)
After many months of scanning through many topics of interest (“lurking”, I think is the word), I joined this forum in November. I eventually joined, started a thread regarding my gay son and how to deal with my extended family’s inability to accept him, and received some advice (some good, some not so good).
Since then, I have continued to browse the forum and it’s various topics, primarily focusing on topics that involve anything to do with homosexuality (a topic that I have a particular interest in as stated above). As I may have mentioned in the past, coming to terms with my sons sexuality and reconciling it with the faith I have always stood up for wasn’t easy, but I, along with my wife, have come to accept my son for who he is.
We treat his husband as if he was another one of our sons. I am well aware of the Catholic teachings on this and don’t expect them to ever change. I should also point out I am not looking for ways to end my sons marriage and convince him to live a chaste lifestyle. Catholicism is what I have always known, but I know that my acceptance of my son does not fall in line with the teachings of the Church. I am still in the process of reconciling this with my Catholic Faith.
In my ongoing attempts to make that reconciliation, I have read many comments on this forum that I would like to discuss further. My intention is not to offend anyone. I am also by no means trying to “bash” Catholicism (because, as said before, my Faith is what I know and up until recently I never questioned it). I respect everyone here and truly believe that anything I have read here in the past or that might be said in reply to this thread are done with the best of intentions. I hope to receive the same respect back in regards to my questions.
Bear in mind, some of this may be paraphrasing because it is all from memory. What follows are some of the things I have read and wish to discuss or gain some clarity on.
Same-Sex Attraction Disorder (SSAD)
When browsing some old topics, I came across someone insisting that homosexual people have “SSAD”, emphasis on the “D”. Typically, I see it referred to as simply “SSA” (which is perfectly fine; it simply means "Same Sex Attraction). But this person was persistent, going so far that they argued with another poster about why “SSAD”, not “SSA”, was the more accurate acronym. They then proceeded to explain how homosexuality was a mental disorder, much like autism or bi-polar disorder. I of course understand that the Catholic definition of “disordered” is not the same as the medical definition, but this particular poster (and those who concurred) appeared to use both definitions simultaneously. While I acknowledge the Church regards SSA as disordered, I do not agree it is an actual mental disorder, medically speaking. I’d like to discuss this further.