If you were thoughtful and gay, you would. A bit about myself: I experienced a deep and powerful attraction to men starting at age 10 or 11, and it has never abated. My attraction to women is much more casual, often more like appreciation than attraction. One of my heart’s desires, no doubt, is to be in a physical relationship with a man, to build a family with another man.
It kills me that God made such relationships barren. And make no mistake: they are that way because God made them that way. God can make the world whatever way he wants. You can’t even imagine how I’ve raged at God about this, because I know in my gut that either God doesn’t exist, or God doesn’t want me to have a boyfriend. It just doesn’t make any *sense *for God to approve of gay sex but make it infertile!
More about me: I’m married now, and I have five kids. I can say with confidence I would never have married my wife if I thought homosexual activity was good and healthy. If God wanted me to take the option of marrying a man seriously, then why did he put such huge obstacles between a potential gay marriage and a family? And why are these obstacles not merely a matter of social pressure, but actually a matter of biology?
Could I have adopted? Maybe. But not in 99.9% of societies that ever existed. It just doesn’t make any sense to me that God would force gay people to adopt in order to have kids. That doesn’t explain the world, and theology is supposed to explain the world.
Several years ago, my sister needed a liver transplant (at no fault of her own; she wasn’t a drinker or anything like that). She went on to a waiting list, and spent the next two years just waiting around for an organ that would save her life. Eventually, it came. She is now healthier than ever.
The best of my knowledge, the church permits organ donation. But what happened to my sister is completely unnatural. Nature intended for her to die. Man (well, I say it was God) stepped in. An organ from a complete stranger, a totally different person, was placed inside of my sisters body, and now it sustains her.
The difference is that your sister’s sickness was an accident, “an attribute which may or may not belong to a subject, without affecting its essence” (Guthrie). The fact that I can’t have babies with Leonardo DiCaprio is no accident; it’s part of our essential nature. We can explain accidental evils by appealing to the fall. But we can’t explain the infertility of gay couples by appealing to the fall.
I know, I know. Odd comparison. My point is that God has a way of working around nature, using his children as instruments. Can my son and his husband biologically create a child together? Of course not. But they are both fully capable of creating a child. They are also both capable of adopting. For all any of us know, that little girl who was abandoned by her biological parents and left to the state was put in that position so that Jennifer and Theresa down the street could take her in and give her the life she deserves.
This is your best hope for an argument against what I’m saying. But I don’t think it works. Same-sex desire has been around as long as history, but such adoptions have been forbidden, in almost every society – even societies, like Greece, where homosexuality was everywhere. If God made gay couples so that *somebody *would adopt abandoned kids, you would expect God to have allowed it to happen before the 21st century.