Some of you may remember the issues with my sister, anyway it’s continued. She’s marrying the guy she left 6 years ago. One of my problems with this, if you remember he was married when she got pregnant with my nephew, was exactly that.
Well apparently they’d been seeing each other and they both applied for annulments, she’d been married civilly behind everyone’s back. Anyway, they both were given the ok to marry in the Church, so I guess they’re previous marriages were found to be not valid. Anyway, she called me 1 week ago asking me to be her matron of honor and my ds to be the ring bearer. She’s getting married on Nov. 21, 2009…yes you read this correctly, she just a week ago asked me and informed me of her pending marriage. She hasn’t told my mom about it and just told my dad a couple of days ago:eek:.
She moved out of my mom and dad’s house about 2 months ago to go live with this man, supposedly with the blessing of the monsignor. Apparently, because they share a child it’s completely ok for them to live together before they get married:mad:, anyway she came while my mom was not home and took some of her stuff and told my nephew that he wasn’t going to live there anymore. My dad said that my nephew was devastated and cried the entire time.
There’s a lot of water under the bridge, she has been responsible for most of why everything has been so bad, her lies, manipulation and sneekiness. Because of what she’s said we don’t like him and he doesn’t like us, he’s NEVER paid a dime in child support. My parents put a roof over their head and food on the table, she lived there rent and utility free. She got a full time job about 2 and a half years ago, before that she was unemployed or employed part time so for almost 4 years she and my nephew were supported by my parents and myself.
To tell the truth, I don’t want to have anything to do with this disaster waiting to happen. I pray that it will work out and that I’m wrong, but neither of them have changed one bit since she left him 6 years ago. The mere fact that she left my parents house to go live with him speaks volumes of how she cares nothing about what the Church teaches, she wants what she wants. No confession, no communion because she knows that she’s fornicating yet she wants a Catholic wedding, I just don’t get it. All for show is the only explanation I can come up with.
My parents are upset and hurt as am I, but should I attend this wedding? As far as Canon Law we can’t oppose the wedding they’ve been given the go ahead, so are we obligated to attend and be part of this wedding? Any advice would be greatly appreciated, I know I did a little venting, but I thought it was important to give a little background to show why I don’t want to go. Now in all fairness to my sister, she was there for me when my marriage crumbled around me and when my baby passed away, she supported me during those very tough times. This wedding is different, the support she wants is different, she wants me to be ok with something that I totally disagree with and not because it’s just how I “feel” about it, but because of actions, behaviors and words. Help please, thank you.