Just as a quick background, I am in the midst of conversion (hoping to join the Church next Easter) and so I have been looking at points that people have criticized the Church on in the past to try and get a better understanding of where I stand myself on such issues and why.
To start, I have read and reasoned enough at this point to say that I do feel now (I held a different view in the past) that homosexual unions or “gay marriage” is wrong and I can clearly see objectively why the Church holds that view. I guess the only hesitance or sadness that I feel with this change in view is that, while I can see all the negative things that have occurred with the acceptance of homosexuality (acceptance of sterile unions oriented towards mutual use and pleasure, people who may not be homosexual questioning that they could be same-sex attracted etc), I also see some of the positive as well.
The positive that I do see is that those who are truly same-sex attracted no longer feel trapped and haunted by that part of their lives. More people are able to see them for other traits that they have instead of just the fact that they are “gay”. I have seen this in a few of my friends who are gay. Once they came out they really seemed to open up more and reveal much more of who they are as a person. These were good traits that because they felt more at ease around us and around people in general they allowed themselves to show instead of just being too worried about whether or not they would be accepted because they are gay.
While I see why the Church holds the views they do, I also see that there are some people who don’t also uphold the second part of the Churches teaching where you are still to treat those with homosexual leanings with respect and dignity.
I guess my question for you all then is, how do we solve this issue so that those who are homosexual feel at ease or comfortable with who they are, and people who uphold the churches teachings also feel comfortable treating those people as they would others and not making them feel ostracized due to sexual orientation (but still not accepting sin as acceptable)?