Sorrowful Heart Open Letter


Dear Friend in Christ,
Would you do something for Blessed Mother? Would you pray for her lost children suffering from SSA? SSA or same sex-attraction begins as a silent affliction, shocking its victims, covering them in shame, and forcing them to suffer alone in the dark. One after another of these souls, finding little or no help, are too easily sucked into a whirlpool of politically correct lies giving them the pseudo-identity of a homosexual. We are writing to beg for your prayers.

Our 15 year old son suffers from SSA. When we first learned of our son’s affliction, we were naturally devastated, hurt, and frightened beyond our wildest imagination. We were, we thought a normal family, not perfect but loving, and certainly not abusive or broken. How could this happen? We plunged headfirst into prayer and study looking for answers to a problem that heretofore, we had not only misunderstood, but one the church was seemingly quiet about. By and large the group of souls who identify themselves as homosexual float somewhere outside the boundary of the prayers of decent folk, are condemned to “accept their identity” by mental health workers, and are abandoned to seek solace and camaraderie in a subculture devoid of morals and rampant with the work of Satan. Suddenly, our son, our baby was thrust to this group.

Research brought us to websites such as NARTH (National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality) COURAGE and EXODUS (Christian based organizations helping individuals free themselves from SSA.) We found while every case is different and many factors are involved in the cause of SSA, two things are always true. NO ONE CHOOSES this affliction, and NO ONE IS BORN WITH IT. It develops through childhood much like a hidden disease when deep and legitimate emotional needs go unmet. The SSA erupts as the body’s unconscious attempt to meet and fill those natural needs. Homosexuality, therefore, is only a symptom of a confused, distorted, un-affirmed gender identity of a disturbed personality with unresolved emotional turmoil and unmet needs of male-bonding. As we studied we quickly identified a number of factors that amounted to the perfect storm swirling around our beautiful son. Factors ranged from his dad being distant and withdrawn, feeling rejected by his brothers, always being lumped in with his younger sisters, to his mom being critical or controlling, just to name a few. Painfully with a thousand mea-culpas, we examined our past, read dozens of books, talked with experts, and discovered without a doubt that his SSA was caused by his environment, his relationships, and his perception of both. That’s the good news – because it CAN be helped. He CAN change, as CAN every one of the poor lost souls who feel forced to identify themselves as homosexuals.

The tough news is – our son, like so many of these children, is closed to hearing or believing any of this good news. He struggled silently in his own tortured hell for years fighting this affliction, which has NOTHING to do with sex, and everything to do with a subconscious need to bond with men. His natural growth in this area was thwarted through circumstances over which he had NO control, no understanding, and no hope of overcoming on his own. But as evil would have it, this affliction truly does force one into a closet, into the dark and away from the light of reason. As our dear son fought his SSA, he prayed and prayed for God to remove it. At barely 13, he fasted to a stoic degree, abandoning ALL snacks and candy for two years, an amazing abstinence he refused to explain at the time telling the family only “he was doing it for God.” Of course, his innocent heart was trying to cajole God into removing the unwanted thoughts and strange desires his body entering puberty was thrusting at him. And after two painful years of this battle, (Oh see if this does not break your heart as it has ours!), he searched elsewhere for answers, turning reluctantly from the God, who had always been his greatest love. Satan was only too ready for the world to supply him with answers. He was gay, it told him. He must have been born this way. God would not change it, because God had made him that way. His anger, the depression, the unrest in his soul was nothing more than the sting of rejection he felt over his family’s and his religion’s rejection of gays. They would never accept him for who he was. Satan, through the world, fed him myriad lies that were easy to accept after two years of fruitless, lonely struggle. His story is typical really.


As our family grieved over our son, we turned to Jesus and Mary, who brought us to Calvary. There we felt the heart-wrenching grief of the Sorrowful Heart of Mary under the cross and the Sacred Heart of Jesus over the loss of these misguided, tortured souls. MOTHER WANTS THEM BACK! And she is gathering an army in heaven and on earth to pray, to sacrifice, and to suffer for these souls. She wants them won for her son, who earned them with every tortured breath on the cross. Is she CALLING YOU TO JOIN HER ARMY? Friend, we pray this letter has reached you by her intercession.

We believe the Queen of Angels has placed Saint Joseph, father and protector of the Holy Family, and St. Michael, leader and commander of the Heavenly Host, at the head of this heavenly and earthly coalition. Won’t you please join the society saying the St. Michael prayer daily for the Lost Children of SSA. We need your prayers united with ours. Jesus and Mary are weeping, their generous Hearts beating as one with the same heartfelt moans that each of them suffered on Calvary. We parents have been placed there with them, not by choice, but now by God’s grace with full resignation, hope and burning love for our children on the brink of such a precipice. **Won’t you join us and all the parents silently suffering for their children? ** We ask only 15 seconds a day - jst 15 seconds to pray the St. Michael prayer found at the end of this letter each day, or any prayer you choose in union with the society of parents praying for their SSAD children. Satan has a powerful hold over this disorder, and St. Michael is ready for battle.

It’s impossible to describe to you the depth of our pain. Please understand that our desperation stems solely from our son’s rejection of our faith and the danger to his immortal soul. The stigma, any embarrassment, even the possibility of AIDS pales in comparison to this. Thus far our son has not acted in any way on these attractions, but now he refuses to join us at church and will not even pray with the family. We feel it is because he cannot reconcile his affliction with God’s Word. Please pray for the light of the Holy Spirit to open and instruct his heart and all the children added to the list.

Please consider sending an email with the words, “Yes! I Will Pray.” in the title to This will allow us to share any news of returning SSA lambs and be able to encourage those in the Society from time to time to remind them to pray the St. Michael prayer for homosexuals.

We ask all of this and especially your prayers in the name of Jesus Christ who died for these souls, and the Sorrowful Heart of Mary whose martyrdom of the heart continues for their sakes.

Michael’s Mom & Dad and SSAD Parents of the Sorrowful Heart Society

:gopray2:Pray for: Carl Michael; Jack; Bridget; Gregory; Steve; Francis; David; JR; and Josh.

*St. Michael the Archangel, defend us in battle. Be our protection against the wickedness and snares of the devil. May God rebuke him, we humbly pray. Do thou O prince of the Heavenly Host, by the power of God, thrust into Hell Satan and all other evil spirits who prowl about the world seeking the ruin of souls.

St. Joseph, guardian and protector of the Holy Family, Pray for us!
Sorrowful Heart of Mary, our Mother, we unite ourselves to you and to Jesus.
O Mother conceived without sin, pray for us who have recourse to you. (3X)
Sacred Heart of Jesus, we place our trust in You! Draw the lost children and their families into the abode of Your Divine Mercy. We ask this in Your Holy Name. Amen.*

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What an amazing post. My heart goes out to you and I have prayed for you and your son. Our Lady’s mantle will protect you. May God’s peace cover you.


Dear Sorrowful Heart…As a mother my heart breaks with you…and I will pray.
I know you probably know this already, but remember St Monica. She prayed for her lost son with a grieved heart as well ( St Augustine) . I always turn to her and the Blessed Mother .

As encouragement if I may share…I have a very close relative who was in the lifestyle over 20 years. Everyone thought he was hopeless----wrote him off as a loss .Today thanks to prayer and God’s mercy he is married has a family and two beautiful sons. It was a long journey to healing. Their story is a tremendous example of hope for healing.

Oh Lord bless this family with your Divine Mercy and healing power

Eternal Father I offer you the body and blood soul and Divinity of your dearly beloved Son Our Lord Jesus Christ in atonement for our sins and those of the whole world.

For the sake of your sorrowful passion

Have Mercy on us and on the whole world


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