OPEN LETTER TO FAMILY AND FRIENDS OF THOSE AFFLICTED WITH SSA
Dear Friend in Christ,
Would you do something for Blessed Mother? Would you pray for her lost children suffering from SSA? SSA or same sex-attraction begins as a silent affliction, shocking its victims, covering them in shame, and forcing them to suffer alone in the dark. One after another of these souls, finding little or no help, are too easily sucked into a whirlpool of politically correct lies giving them the pseudo-identity of a homosexual. We are writing to beg for your prayers.
Our 15 year old son suffers from SSA. When we first learned of our son’s affliction, we were naturally devastated, hurt, and frightened beyond our wildest imagination. We were, we thought a normal family, not perfect but loving, and certainly not abusive or broken. How could this happen? We plunged headfirst into prayer and study looking for answers to a problem that heretofore, we had not only misunderstood, but one the church was seemingly quiet about. By and large the group of souls who identify themselves as homosexual float somewhere outside the boundary of the prayers of decent folk, are condemned to “accept their identity” by mental health workers, and are abandoned to seek solace and camaraderie in a subculture devoid of morals and rampant with the work of Satan. Suddenly, our son, our baby was thrust to this group.
Research brought us to websites such as NARTH (National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality) COURAGE and EXODUS (Christian based organizations helping individuals free themselves from SSA.) We found while every case is different and many factors are involved in the cause of SSA, two things are always true. NO ONE CHOOSES this affliction, and NO ONE IS BORN WITH IT. It develops through childhood much like a hidden disease when deep and legitimate emotional needs go unmet. The SSA erupts as the body’s unconscious attempt to meet and fill those natural needs. Homosexuality, therefore, is only a symptom of a confused, distorted, un-affirmed gender identity of a disturbed personality with unresolved emotional turmoil and unmet needs of male-bonding. As we studied we quickly identified a number of factors that amounted to the perfect storm swirling around our beautiful son. Factors ranged from his dad being distant and withdrawn, feeling rejected by his brothers, always being lumped in with his younger sisters, to his mom being critical or controlling, just to name a few. Painfully with a thousand mea-culpas, we examined our past, read dozens of books, talked with experts, and discovered without a doubt that his SSA was caused by his environment, his relationships, and his perception of both. That’s the good news – because it CAN be helped. He CAN change, as CAN every one of the poor lost souls who feel forced to identify themselves as homosexuals.
The tough news is – our son, like so many of these children, is closed to hearing or believing any of this good news. He struggled silently in his own tortured hell for years fighting this affliction, which has NOTHING to do with sex, and everything to do with a subconscious need to bond with men. His natural growth in this area was thwarted through circumstances over which he had NO control, no understanding, and no hope of overcoming on his own. But as evil would have it, this affliction truly does force one into a closet, into the dark and away from the light of reason. As our dear son fought his SSA, he prayed and prayed for God to remove it. At barely 13, he fasted to a stoic degree, abandoning ALL snacks and candy for two years, an amazing abstinence he refused to explain at the time telling the family only “he was doing it for God.” Of course, his innocent heart was trying to cajole God into removing the unwanted thoughts and strange desires his body entering puberty was thrusting at him. And after two painful years of this battle, (Oh see if this does not break your heart as it has ours!), he searched elsewhere for answers, turning reluctantly from the God, who had always been his greatest love. Satan was only too ready for the world to supply him with answers. He was gay, it told him. He must have been born this way. God would not change it, because God had made him that way. His anger, the depression, the unrest in his soul was nothing more than the sting of rejection he felt over his family’s and his religion’s rejection of gays. They would never accept him for who he was. Satan, through the world, fed him myriad lies that were easy to accept after two years of fruitless, lonely struggle. His story is typical really.