"Spilling the Seed" - HELP.

Hello, I’m currently 13 years old.

I’ve recently started to… well… “spill the seed (used in another thread, sorry for having to use this or copy it.)”. I started doing it this Saturday, and well the feeling was great. I keep on having urges to. So far I’ve done it each day and I can’t stop. People told me, via internet it has to do with regards to hormones and puberty and the sexual urges are hard to go by during this pubescent period. I heard in religion class it isn’t supported by the Catholic Church with doesn’t really explain much on regards to whether masturbation is considered a sin or not. But for all means I’m currently not using any pornography or having thoughts of “lust” running through my head. Just the feeling is I guess what I’m aiming for.

I don’t want this to turn into a habit at all, and I keep praying to God and telling my self that I’ll try to make a covenant with God and promise to never do it again. In other words, I need your help, will this “addiction” eventually stop? Is it just because of puberty? is it because of my hormones? and most of all, is it considered a sin?

Thank you.

  • Liberality.

It is still considered a sin. You are using a gift that God gave people to use outwardly and using it to pleasure yourself. Sexual acts are designed for two reason: procreation and uniting husband and wife; you are not fulfilling either.

Here is a more detailed explanation from the Catechism:
I got the following quote from the Catechism on the Vatican website. vatican.va/archive/ccc_css/archive/catechism/p3s2c2a6.htm#II

Offenses against chastity

2351 Lust is disordered desire for or inordinate enjoyment of sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure is morally disordered when sought for itself, isolated from its procreative and unitive purposes.

2352 By masturbation is to be understood the deliberate stimulation of the genital organs in order to derive sexual pleasure. "Both the Magisterium of the Church, in the course of a constant tradition, and the moral sense of the faithful have been in no doubt and have firmly maintained that masturbation is an intrinsically and gravely disordered action."138 “The deliberate use of the sexual faculty, for whatever reason, outside of marriage is essentially contrary to its purpose.” For here sexual pleasure is sought outside of "the sexual relationship which is demanded by the moral order and in which the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love is achieved."139

To form an equitable judgment about the subjects’ moral responsibility and to guide pastoral action, one must take into account the affective immaturity, force of acquired habit, conditions of anxiety or other psychological or social factors that lessen, if not even reduce to a minimum, moral culpability.

My husband says almost every teenage boy does it but please try not to let it become too much of a habit - it is a sin when you’re single but more than that when you are in a relationship / married if you masturbate habitually as a youngster you will struggle all the more to control yourself through periods of abstinance.

Plain and simple, it is a mortal sin.

Go to confession and stop immediately.

Look man, you are 13 years old. If you start masturbating now you’ll probably have a bad habit for a long time. I know you don’t think about marriage yet, but at some point you probably want to get married and then you have to stand in front of some chaste girl and tell her you lost your innocense at 13 and kept blemishing yourself every day after that without any resistance… Its not gonna sound very great for a any future girl to be with a guy who has no self-control.
So stop masturbating and turning inwards on yourself. Sexuality is a gift which you are supposed to give to another person one day at the wedding night. The more you misuse it, the stronger will be your urges to misuse it again and again.

Thank you all for your replies.

I’m planning to go to Confession this weekend. Since this is my 3rd Confession (I received the sacrament of Reconciliation at 9), is it perfectly normal to talk to the priest on regards to my problem? Is there any other way to define masturbation? Its some what embarrassing.

It is perfectly normal. I realize that confessing sins of the flesh can be awkward, but the man is used to it! He has probably heard much much worse. Best to get it done and over with, than to wait because of anxiety. I have put of a confession for a few weeks, then months, and then years :eek:

Be fully open with the priest in confession (‘spilled my seed’ or ‘pleasured myself’ are all you need to say to describe it), and don’t worry about being embarrassed–he’s heard it all before, and can have good advice to give you. Listen attentively, and ask any questions you need to in order to understand the church’s teaching on this.

As other posters have said, it is a gravely disordered act, for the reasons already mentioned. However, whether it is a mortal sin or not depends on other factors as well–it is certainly not correct to make such a blanket statement. (But, mortal or not, it is still a sin and should be confessed, to be clear!) Your priest can advise you on all this.

Above all, never, never, let shame or embarrassment keep you from the sacramental grace of the confessional. Confession is a powerful treasure of the church that God put there precisely in order to make sure that we can get to heaven in spite of all our sins and weaknesses. Not to make use of it is to give up your soul without a fight!

Thanks for all the replies.

All right, thanks for your AWESOME reply. I’m willing to be using your suggestions such as “pleasured my self”, I’m also thinking of using things I found in other threads, “Have done impure things with my self”, “thought of impure things”, and “purposely looked at impure things” as well. Thing is my priest is somewhat of an ESL type person (well one of them, but usually he’s the one doing the confessions).

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