[quote="Anathama_Sit, post:6, topic:272840"]
Mine, God bless his soul, has never charged me a dime, and when I have tried to pay him or donate to him he refuses it. He says that if I follow his counsel and strive to do my best to attain a deeper Union with God, then that's payment enough. However I help him out whenever I can and this helps too.
I also have Mass said for him as much as possible and have my friends pray for him as well.
I think there is a big difference between having a parish priests vs a religious priest or sister or a lay person as a director. A parish priest gets a salary from his parish. If he has the time and inclination to do spiritual direction (I am not speaking of the occasional pastoral counseling session but ongoing serious spiritual direction) and can fit it into his schedule of parish duties, then there is really no need to pay him, even if the person being directed is not one of his parishioners (as is my case). But a religious or lay person may be doing this as a means of additional income or support for their congregation. Paying a religious would be considered a donation to their congregation. If the director is a lay person, however, that is compensation for their time. I do know a number of qualified lay people who are directors and they ask for $25 or whatever a person can give. But I would be wary of someone who hangs out a shingle as a spiritual director and asks for big bucks a session. Get recommendations, recommendations, and more recommendations. A good director should also allow for a few "trial" sessions to see if you are a good match for each other.