I've just turned 21, and I have been a college graduate since December who has been unable to find employment for the past 5-6 months. During this time, I have been gaining a greater understanding and appreciation of the Priesthood and Married Life. With that said, I feel slightly immbolized in processing what the next step in my life should be. I don't know where my focus should be: Employment (What and Where), Dating (Finding a Spouse), perhaps pursuing a call to the Priesthood or Religious Life (Which I feel neither hot or cold about).
I'm trying to figure out whether I need a Spiritual Director or a Life Coach (or Counselor)
Since one of my potential options as a young male is Priesthood or the Religious Life, logic would suggest I get a Spiritual Director. It would benefit me in discerning whether that is God's calling for me or not. It could also help me in improving my prayer and spiritual life, which is not great, but improving, albeit slowly. At the same time, I don't feel particularly called to the Priesthood or the Seminary, especially for the right reasons and/or motivations. I know part of me wondering whether I should consider the Priesthood is becausing I've struggled to find employment, which isn't exactly a good reason, but I also know that if I was employed that I would have more distractions preventing me from discerning the Priesthood at all.
On the othe side of things, I know my other option is to be a working man and perhaps have a Family, so logic would suggest I should get some sort of "Life Coach" to help me with my struggles to being employable and figuring out my career options, dating, and being more sociable and less prone to anxiety. Part of my problem in feeling unable to pursue either Vocation is that I feel completely unprepared or ready for either. I neither feel comfortable or feel I would fit in well at a Seminary or in Dating someone seriously and considering Marriage. I also can't really pursue either at this time because I haven't been a convert for 3 years yet until this August (Priesthood), and I certainly can't consider Dating or Marriage being unemployed. On the other hand, Counseling can be expensive, (my insurance doesn't cover it I think) and it doesn't necessarily help with my Spiritual Life which may or may not be the key to figuring everything out.
I guess it is easy to summarize that I am not sure what I really "need" at this point and was hoping some of you who are older and wiser could make some suggestions. I've considered going to my Diocese's Vocations Director to ask this question, but I have not pulled the trigger on that because I know Vocations Directors Jobs are more focused on helping folks who are seriously considering the Priesthood.This may not be the right post in the Vocations Sub Forum, but at the least I'd like to figure out whether Spiritual Direction is appropriate for me at this time in my life or not.
Thanks in Advance:)