I have a regular spiritual director who I've been meeting with now for about nine months. He's young and him and I get along very well. Five months ago I brought it up to him that I believed I had a religious vocation, but wasn't specific about what I felt called to. We began doing some spiritual exercises and worked on getting me more involved in my faith community. However, I have always felt l was more called to the monastic life.
On a whim I just took a weekend retreat up to a monastery and fell in love. I felt like I was at home for the first time. I emailed the vocations director later with some questions and he encouraged me to consider making a more long term retreat up there. When I told my spiritual director about this he immediately discouraged it and began trying to relate his order to what attracted me about monastic life. I respected his advice but deep down felt he was trying to get me to consider his order, which is an active mendicant order.
I am told you are supposed to trust your spiritual director with your vocation, but when should you take the advice of a specific vocations director and pursue what you feel truly called to?