Spiritual direction may sound like a big word, but is a helpful thing for people who are serious in the spiritual journey, like you are.
A spiritual director or spiritual companion -there are different names- is a person with whom you can share the most personal things than happen in your life. In a way is like a very close friend, with the difference that there is reciprocity with a friend (the friend also tells you their things) where there is not such with a spiritual director.
A spiritual director is a person who will listen to whatever is happening in your life and you want to talk about -whether is bothering you, is important to you, is something that atracts or repels you, your desires, hopes, your prayer life -or not- etc.
The listening is not one of curiosity but one of “reading in between lines”, together with you, where and how is God present and acting and leading you in your life. It is not the spiritual director who “directs” you and your life, but s/he helps you find out what God is already inviting and moving you towards.
This means that you need to find a person you can trust, and a person you can share with, that you feel comfortable with.
The reason I hadn’t gone to my parish priest, is because he is very un-personal, and he’s also Indian, which makes it hard to understand him, and hard to make myself understood.
I have no problem going to our other priest, it’s just that I hadn’t thought of it before. :o
This is very fine. You don’t have to go to your parish priest for spiritual direction. The freedom to chose the spiritual director is so important that even the Council documents -Vatican II- reminds everyone of that. You are always free to choose the person, to try how it works, and to end the relationship if you don’t feel you “connect” or whatever. That freedom is sacred. But also is important to be honest and once you find and try the person to stick with s/he whether in ups or downs.
Anyways, so my question is: how do I go about getting a spiritual director? I’m painfully shy, so it’s not easy for my to just approach a priest or someone without knowing exactly what I need from him. So what do I need from him?
There are many women and men spiritual directors. Ìf you are thinkning of a vocation to religious life, you might look for a religious priest-brother/sister to help you in the discerment.
Of course the most important thing to do to find a spiritual director is to pray for that, and to be open and “alert” as to who do you know or you could know or shows up in your way.
I’ll be praying for you and with you. And don’t be afraid but rejoice!!! Jesus is with you in this, and you also have a Guardian Angel .:angel1:
Hope this is of some help. Peace be with you!