As a revert, who remembers a time when Saturday night confessions were the norm EVERY WEEK so you were in a state of grace for communion the next day, I do not understand how or why this situation has evolved. When did ‘once a year’ come in to play? Why was it impressed upon me as a child the need to confess no less frequent than once a week? THE problem here is that there are in no way enough priests. Its the elephant in the room that nobody addresses. Why? Can you seriously believe that 1500-2500 families can be served by one or two priests? The Eastern Orthodox say its about 150 souls per priest. There are a lot of Roman Catholic souls hurting out there. We have no spiritual direction, we are not receiving the sacraments, we fall away because of it, and some of us never return.
I am sorry for your predicament, HeadingBackHome. It may be why I am no longer RC. I have access to a priest weekly.