[quote="englishredrose, post:6, topic:317945"]
Just that with all the finger pointing about if one doesn't sing at Mass through whatever reason then they are not fully participating.... then what other reasons are considered as not fully participating. If one can be there in mind spirit and body but not verbally communicating then why does it matter if one chooses not to sing because they may be still with God?
I've never understood that sort of finger pointing myself, and I'm reasonably sure it's not actually based on anything legitimate. I also tend to think it doesn't matter if one sings, so long as the choice is made for real reasons one way or the other. Although there are things we're supposed to do, and we should do them as we are able, I've always thought worship and Mass participation and the like was primarily an interior thing.
So far as I understand the argument, there are some people who see their singing as a important part of how they praise God, who get a lot out of it, and who seek to honor God with their music. These are the more active people who say "he who sings prays twice," and that sort of thing.
And then there are people like me who would just as soon pray twice. Now I will sing at mass, sometimes (the actual mass parts primarily), but for me the singing part is a forced action. It is not in the least a natural way to praise God.
Occasionally members of the first group think members of the second group aren't participating because we just aren't as outwardly active. To be honest, I'm now mildly amused when I see this happen because it reminds me of how my mom and I tried to talk to each other when I was a teenager.
I'd be sitting on the couch having just read something interesting and being lost in thought about it, to have my rather more outgoing mom come up and say "Are you depressed? Why aren't you doing anything? Aren't you happy? Why don't you call up so and so? Bowling is half off today you know, or you could go _____. You look too serious. Why are you frowning? are you angry? annoyed? what's wrong? shouldn't you be doing something? why are you just sitting there?"
(At which point my train of thought would go over a cliff, I'd completely forget what I was thinking about, and I'd fall back on that old teenage standby "I dunno.")
I joke about it now, but I think some people fail to realize that some of us just operate in different ways, and so interpret more silent participation as "just sitting there," or "not doing anything."
Those people are wrong.
Well meaning, yes. Generally really attempting to help, yes. But in reality, when they push for more "active" participation, for some of us they are just driving a train of thought, a prayer, over a cliff without realizing it. (And of course, as a reply, they often get an "I dunno" back afterwards because often we don't understand them either.)