You see no difference between personal hygiene and vanity? A person who showers once a day and a person who can’t leave the house–literally–without three hours of applying products, high price products? That’s what I am referring to here.
And again, I hold myself to the same standard!
The point about appearance was not specific to my husband either. I know families who spend thousands of dollars on landscaping every year. Thousands. Every year. If landscaping is important to him, we can add it to the budget, or he can spend as much of his money as he desires, but I am of the mind that money could be better spent. College funds for example.