I can honestly say I would never want to control my partner. I would want to encourage and respect him as he makes his way in the world.
I realize my list may be too extreme, That is why I am seeking feedback, to make it into what it should be. I can also honestly say I only have this list at all because I know how many marriages end in divorce, and I’ve seen married couples remain together while their differences emotionally tear them apart, causing great anguish, especially for the children. My hope is that a list like this, made before I meet a man and am blinded by love, can help me to avoid such tragedies.
Appreciate your replies and the thought you have put, not only into them, but also into your list. On balance, I think what you are doing is far smarter than most people who go into a marriage with ill defined expectations. Again, I think you could consolidate much of what you are looking for into a solid description of a good and faithful Catholic man.
And again, just from a male POV, the fact that you have so many expectations and demands, makes me think you tend to be inflexible, and from my experience, flexibility in a marriage is important. (And I don’t mean flexibility as in abandoning your core values, but rather that ability to accept and adapt to idiosyncrasies in a man that might be described as irritating, but definitely not a deal breaker.)
And just curious (and you definitely don’t have to answer this if you don’t want to) but I would be curious to know how old you are. (And yes, I know that is a question on does not ask a lady )