I think it would be good to discern the items on your list and then follow the suggestion that someone made above to separate them into different categories (things that you would be absolutely essential vs. things where you are willing to compromise).
I thought I would be marrying a good Catholic man, born and raised in my home state, who liked all the same things as me. What happened was that I married a man whose first language is Spanish and who likes a lot of foods that I am not accustomed to. Now, I speak Spanish, and he speaks English, so we can communicate with each other’s families, but his English and my Spanish are not always perfect. We actually generally speak more Spanish together than English because Spanish comes more easily for me than English does for him. He’s introduced me to a lot of great food, but there’s still some I’m not so convinced on (and vice versa).
My husband thought he didn’t want someone who drank alcohol at all. He has seen alcoholism in his family and among his peers, and the partying scene did not appeal to him at all. Now, as an introvert, the party scene is not for me either, but I do like to have a glass of wine or a beer in the evening or with a meal occasionally. I think that worried my husband at first, but seeing that I knew how to drink responsibly, now he and I can enjoy a beer or a margarita together (though he’s still getting used to the taste of beer ).
Additionally, we started dating a month after meeting and dated for about 10 months before getting engaged. We were engaged a year and then married this past summer. He and I are both adults who decided “why wait to start dating” because we liked each other right away and we entered the relationship with the mindset of discerning marriage. We met when I was 24 and he was 30. We are now 26 and 32. Had we waited so long, we would only just now be dating, and the child we are now expecting would not exist. (Also, by the way, I thought that our 6 year age difference was weird at first, and I thought I’d marry someone within a two year difference, but it’s no big deal).
Those are just examples of how he and I had different expectations in certain areas and God led us to someone we didn’t expect. And yet, we both ended up with good, holy, Catholic spouses (well, we are always works in progress, but we are committed to improving every day!).
Good for you for having an idea of what you’re looking for. I think it’s good to have an idea of what you would like, but don’t be too rigid in time frames and hobbies. Live your life and be open to who and where God leads you.