Though I've read threads that say an SSA man is not expressly forbidden from joining the Priesthood, it seems that he is nevertheless always to be considered in some way "inferior" as opposed to non-SSA men in the Priesthood.
Unfortunately, it seems like the only "real" choice for the SSA male is the single vocation.
Question about such a single vocation:
1.) Presumably, the SSA male is still prohibited from living with a woman/women. Yes?
2.) Obviously, the SSA male is additionally prohibited from living with men. Yes?
3.) That leaves family. However, deep into adulthood, the SSA male is likely to want to leave his parents and parents likewise deserve their own "space" in retirement age, yes?
4.) And siblings are likely to pursue either religious (thus sharing residence with other religious) or marital (thus sharing residence with a new family) vocations, thus it would be impossible to reside with siblings, as well.
My question is where does this leave the SSA male? (The SSA female as well, but I thought I would just go with one gender to simplify.)
The SSA male, as I gather is to: not pursue the Priesthood, certainly not pursue romantic relationships, nor dwell with either males or females.
Therefore, I was wondering, what does the SSA male who is called to be faithful to the Church to do to avoid loneliness and live a life of fulfillment? As much as we may talk about burdens or sacrifices, nevertheless, the SSA is still human and thus still requires companionship.
As a married heterosexual male, this is, to me, a very confusing situation.
Not that SSA would be the absolute worst thing in the world, but if I wasn't called for marriage, I would be pursuing the Priesthood and at least have the companionship of fellow Clergy. And if I was called for marriage but hadn't committed to a particular partner yet, at least I would have the joy of the discernment process with a special lady.
The single SSA male lifestyle who is loyal to the Church seems much lonelier, very sad, to be alone forever, having neither the love of a romantic relationship, the companionship of God and Clergy in religious life, nor even being able to live with a roommate.
I think I'm upset with God about this. It bothers me that not only do such individuals face discrimination and cruelty because of the way they were born. But even in living the Holy life, despite all the prejudice and disgust that they have to overcome even WITHIN the Church, they are called to yet another tremendous sacrifice apparently, which is that they cannot even have the dignity of having a choice to make in their lives, nor companionship as most of us know it.
This, in large part, is why I pray EVERYDAY that those with SSA who are faithful may find love and acceptance in this world and not feel all alone in the world. :crying: