This is kind of an odd subject but there’s a good reason for it. I’ve attended FSSP churches for about five or six years now. Formally I was in the SSPX (where I was conditionally baptized). There were reasons for the change to FSSP but I’m not going to go into that now. We never regretted the move and I’m happy we made it. We’ve now moved and, since there is no FSSP church where we live now, we are attending a Novus Ordo church where the regular priest has just started giving a Latin Mass once a month (every 2nd Sunday). We’re very thankful for that and also thankful that the Novus Ordo masses are very reverent at this church.
At any rate, so much for the introduction. The issue is my daughter is dating a very nice, young man (from a family we knew when attending the SSPX church). They would probably have been planning the wedding by now, except there is a hang up. His family thinks attending the FSSP church on Sundays would be “scandalous.” My wife and I occasionally attended this SSPX church after we moved to the FSSP church because it was closer, but we were eventually told we had to “pick one or the other” from the SSPX folks. (My wife and I were still doing the flowers once a month at the SSPX even after the “shunning” — and still did for a few months afterwards, but eventually gave that up).
And now (finally, sorry to ramble) the questions … Does the SSPX (in general) really think that it is “scandalous” to attend a FSSP Mass on Sundays? If so, why? What’s their justification for this view? It’s weird to think that this young man’s parents almost think of his dating of my daughter (and the prospect of engagement) as a potential “mixed” marriage. My daughter has asked me to call the young man and try to argue for a real compromise here (his parents have basically “demanded” my daughter exclusively attend the SSPX church, which she won’t do) . I know the SSPX is having issues with splitting (as a former Protestant I know how that works). I know there is the “mainstream” SSPX and the “Resistance” and (unless I remember incorrectly) a more “hardcore” “resistance.” I guess my point for bringing this up is that it seems like the SSPX is becoming more “rigorous” and hardened. I know when I attended the SSPX we didn’t see the FSSP churches as “scandalous” (though I wouldn’t say we were exactly on friendly terms), but at the time there were still a lot of older priests who had not grown up in the SSPX — so I think their was some moderating influence there.
At any rate, sorry to ramble again. If possible I would like to hear from both sides here. My goal is to understand how the two “sides” view each other now — so I can reason with the young man (and, eventually, his parents) on this. To me it’s ludicrous that two good Catholic kids with good intentions could be split up because they go to different “branches” of the Latin Mass church. It just seems insane.