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It is interesting to consider parallel observations. Excerpt from:
The HR "Wish List" and Courting "Wish List" are Inexorably Intertwined
It is links between two seemingly unrelated things that start to show you the odd and sometimes amazing psychological, financial, sociological, economic, etc., relationships that exist in the world and helps bring about your understanding of the world to a clearer fruition.
1 in 5 jobs go unfilled because they CAN'T FIND A QUALIFIED EMPLOYEE?????
And nearly HALF of the organizations in your firm lack qualified workers????
ALL WITH UNEMPLOYMENT AT 9.6%, let alone UNDEREMPLOYMENT IN THE HIGH TEENS?
Really? there's NO QUALIFIED CANDIDATES AMONG THE MILLIONS OF UNEMPLOYED PEOPLE OUT THERE.
Mayhaps I suggest there is a little bit of impossibility in both HR's and women's "requirement list" for potential suitors, be it for a job or a romantic suitor? That asking for a man who is 6'2" or taller, makes lots of money, loves his mother, wants to go to church, but is a bad boy in bed, but not unless you say so, who likes to write you poetry, votes liberal, but is a man's man is about as probable as finding the candidate with 10+ years uninterrupted and progressive experience with a masters in blah blah blah blah (PhD preferred, of course) and billions of certifications who is going to work for an average wage and travel 90% of the time and have no social life out of work?
But, no, no. That CAN"T be it! You keep on going. You keep waiting for that perfect candidate to come along who magically has 8 years of experience in a software that has only been on the market for 3. I mean, there's no WAY charlatans and con artists would ever get through your impenetrable filtering and screening process and just tell you what you want to hear just so they can get the job. I mean it's just like dating, right? Nobody has EVER passed through that shield of yours that was unqualified, and CERTAINLY nobody who was ever qualified did you ever shoot down only to regret later.
That never happens.
The problem is that the people in HR need employees who actually show up on time on all the days they have committed to work, actually work when they get there, and won't be leaving for greener pastures before 2 years have passed. They want people who won't lie in order to use their sick leave every time the weather is nice out, so that maybe the employee might have some sick time accrued when they actually get sick. Many times, HR needs employees that have fully competent communication skills in both written and spoken English, which is not a given even among 3rd-generation American high school graduates. Even though the number of high school graduates who lack basic skills is very high, the requirements that must be placed on employees in order to conform to regulations only keeps increasing.
People in HR and people interested in marriage can be totally unrealistic, this is true, but there are also a lot of impossibly bad applicants out there.
It is expensive to train employees, and if an employee is disappointing, it is very hard to get rid of him or her. Likewise, this world is full of people who a) hardly have the maturity to enter into a valid marriage, b) can't be trusted to use that maturity to stick in there for the lifetime of the marriage, or c) make that lifetime seem very very long for the person stuck sticking in there with them. I don't blame employers, landlords, or potential spouses for being very circumspect. The ramifications of making a poor choice are just too serious.
Having said that, anyone looking for a great employee or a great spouse has to ask themselves this: Why would this great rare person choose you? It takes a good one to catch a good one. If you (or your organization) don't have higher standards for yourself than for the person you are seeking, well: Good luck, but don't hold your breath. Your assessment of your qualifications is probably higher than anyone else's. (This is elementary human nature.)
A question the OP might ask in light of her admission that she is "no Immaculate Conception." That could mean a lot of things, from being humble enough to admit her imperfections to having a lot of past "mistakes" of a magnitude that would disqualify applicants coming to her. So OP: check the "wish lists" being posted by picky Catholic men, and ask: Would I pass muster with a guy with standards as high as mine? If so, be patient. If not, you have your work cut out for you, if you're going to reach your goal.