My fiance and I are very commited to using NFP only in our marriage right from the beginning. I’ve already been charting for about a year (Creighton model) because I’ve had some health issues (possible PCOS) that I needed to use charting to help my pro-life doctor diagnose some possible issues. Since then we’ve had to change doctors (some differeing opinions) and while I have been getting my cycle relatively regularly, it is still very hard to tell if I’m ovulating (or not) due to constant mucus cycles.
Anyways, I was wondering if those of you who have been in this situation (or will be getting married soon) had any thoughts on how to approach the wedding night and/or honeymoon? Based on my charting, it is much more likely that I will be displaying “fertile” signs during that time…which may even last the whole time. We have serious reasons to postpone pregnancy a year or so (lots of debt due to professional school plus my fiance starting a residency and me working full time to try and set asside some money and start paying of the debt). We aren’t getting married for another 17 months, and we will have been together for almost 4 years at that point. Waiting would not make sense, mainly because residency for him could last 3-6 years more.
How do/did you discern whether or not to go ahead and be intimate or to abstain during that time? And should we decide to abstain, any thoughts on how to make that time special and/or still have the enjoyment of being close emotionally during that time?
And just any thoughts/advice in general would be appreciated