I was almost a a stay at home dad. My job as a firefighter had a unique work schedule. Work 1, off 2.
That schedule allowed me to be home with my son at least 3 or 4 days a week. My wife went back to work when he was 6 months old. The days I was at work we had grandparents.
I did this till he left for college. I drove the carpools, doctor appts, taught him to walk, talk, potty train, etc. Class has a field trip? Call Guy he can chaperone, so I’d sit around with the mothers, and try not to feel odd.
When I was on duty my wife would call me late at night. "I can’t get him to stop carrying, he won’t sleep.’ “Has he had a bottle?” “yes.” “Ok, just pick him up and walk him around a little to calm him down, but DON’T feed him.”
Later on I was coaching football and baseball teams he played on. What a great experience.
I look back on those years (1980s) as some the most rewarding of my life. It cost me advancements in my career because I was not able to attend certain schools needed for promotions because I could not be out of town for 2 weeks at a a time.
But I would not change anything, I got back far more then I put in. We did not plan on a only child, that was out of our hands. Now at the age of 28 he lives and works 2 hours away. He calls me from his office 2 or 3 times a day.
I no longer give advice to him about curveballs, tackling, and school, now it is is Faith, career, and how to pick a wife. (at 28 he still enjoys being a bachelor.) He is well educated, with a good career, and though not without faults, he has been the kind of son everyone would want. He returns home couple times of month, nothing much has changed in his room since he was a teenager.
So yes, if ya’ll agree the situation is best served by the dad staying home-do it. I have a older niece that is a big time, high dollar lawyer in a big firm. Her husband stays home with the 3 kids. Makes perfect sense to me.