This is long, I am Catholic, but lapsed and I know that we have been living in sin all this time. My question is, should I still try and salvage this relationship or not?
My BF and I have been together about five years. We have an 19 month old son together, and we were planning to get married May 24th. He has always been cheating on me I think, if I am totally honest with myself, and for years I would find suspicious texts, and emails, plus he was always super-protective of his phone. Last year, I found pics of him and someone else, with her daughter at a play area. We broke up, but he cried, begged and promised, and I took him back. Shortly after, we got engaged, as he was now so committed to our relationship. Last Wednesday, my mom called to say that he has been charging calls to a dating service to her phone. She knows it was him, because in an effort not to have so many disputed charges, they now record the calls, and she heard his message.
I still love him and this is my only chance to have a “real” family, no step-parents, visitation, etc. My parents don’t want me to be with him. In fact, my mom said she had prayed either for peace with our relationship, or a sign that it should end. Even so, we never really tried to fix our problems, with counseling or anything. I am just aching over this, and don’t know where to turn. My bf is also very upset, saying he planned to stop once we were married. Should we get counseling, try to fix this and continue with our plans for marriage. Or should it just be over?