I was just wondering if I could get some feed back from some moms out there who have made these types of decisions…
Well My husband and I got married about six months ago and right now he’s finishing up school and I’m working fulltime to support us pay bills etc… He has about a year and 1/2 left and then he’ll be working fulltime, at that point i feel like we have three options to chose from
I can go back to school and finish up my degree then start a family when i’m done with school
start a family right away and put off going to school until after kids are in school fulltime
work fulltime for a few years along with husband and save save save so we’ll be in an awesome financial situation…then have kids and go to school later
My struggle here is I’m craving a family sooooooo badly. I really feel like my vocation is to be a mother.( So much so that my job right now is working in a maternity store, I just love being around children and mothers.) Both my husband and I come from large familys 6 kids in mine and 8 kids in his so were on the same page there. We both desire a large family. Its just that when ever I talk to coworkers, extended family, friends etc… they ALL seem to tell me to get my degree ASAP like I will never go back “there’s always time for babies” actually came out of one lady’s mouth.
I understand that they are worried I will not go back after starting my family but the way i view it right now is that my degree is not financially necessary for us. He’s a computer science major working on his masters (at one of the big ten schools). He will make decent money. I’m majoring in social work. I make more in my retail postion then I would in most postions in social work.
Besides all of that if i did go back and get my degree and then have kids I wouldn’t want to work while my children are youngand I want a large family like i said so i really wouldn’t use my degree for another 10 years waiting for them to all be in school fulltime. then how marketable would I be with a ten yr old degree and no work experience???
This is a struggle for me! any thoughts??