My girlfriend and I (both very devout Catholics) currently live 1.5 hours apart. We see each other on weekends either where I live, where she lives, or in either of our hometowns. When we are going to each others places we usually just stay with each other. We do NOT sleep in the same bed and we are committed to remaining chaste.
Recently one of her friends (also a very devout Catholic) told her that we were doing something very wrong, causing us to doubt ourselves.
We are not seeing staying with each other as cohabitation, because we spend the majority of our time away from each other. We also acknowledge that it may be different if we lived close and saw each other frequently. This is just a practical way for us to get to spend the most of the little time we have with each other.
Also, we do not behave any differently when we are staying with parents than we do when we are at each others place. The only difference is that our parents aren’t there.
There are other options for us to stay other places when we see each other.
Are we wrong to stay with each other?