My step-daughter is 16. She is in the 11th grade but a little more mature than kids her age. She has a boyfriend who is 18. The boyfriend was living near us but had quit school and was living at his dad’s house. For a few different reasons, the boyfriend’s dad and his step-mom had asked him to move away and now lives 4 hours away.
My step-daughter is wanting to see him. Her boyfriend wants to come down for a few days but would have no place to stay while here. My step-daughter is asking even if the boyfriend can sleep outside in a tent. My feeling is no on any of this. Personally I feel the boyfriend should stay maybe at his parent’s house for a few days but he won’t because he is still upset at being asked to leave by them.
My wife I do feel should get the final say on this. This is her daughter after all but has asked me for input which I really am grateful for. I really would be disappointed if my wife was to say it was OK but so far she is sticking with No.
I am wondering if I am being too old-fashioned here. It has been put to me by some adults I know that this is a pretty common thing: teenage kids spending the night in the same house with parents for a few days. Am I being too harsh? What would any of you do if you were in this situation?