Here’s an interesting tale:
I had 3 children under the age of 3 (had twins first), and was terrified of having more…I was exhausted! My doc kept suggesting sterilization, so since my dh was not Catholic, he had a vasectomy. (Wish the priests would have said something about this in the pulpit.) Funny thing…within months of his vas., because of dh’s work, we began moving…at least every 12-18 months. Plus, my last child rarely slept thru the night for the first 5 years. Then, one sickness or another set in. There was absolutely no time or energy for “marital relations”. Then, you just get used to it. In other words, we’ve been abstaining for 8 years now.
Although I attended Cath. school for 12 years and our family never missed mass, I never really knew my faith. (Catechism? What’s that?) Just recently though, I’ve come to understand the evil of the vasectomy. Also, how can I truly be “Pro-Life” if I, myself, am not open to life because another child would be inconvenient. Even so, I kept my thoughts to myself, never talked to my husb. about it.
Now here’s the truly astonishing part…just last week, totally out of the blue, my dh said something at the dinner table about all the orphaned children of the tsunami, that they may be eligible for adoption next year. Why would he say something like that unless he was ***ALSO ** * thinking of growing our family? How could two people who barely talk to each other come to same off-the-wall, out-of-the-blue conclusion at the same time?
Well, we finally had a nice, long talk, he’s open to a reversal, we’re both terrified at the prospect of having another child at 42 years old, but I know now that we need to leave that up to God. Am I nuts? :eek: