OK… different situation, then. Still, why would they think that you’re making a statement about them at a wedding for your friend?
i’m not talking about church law per say but about how divorce and remarriage is considered adultery, that’s God’s law, not church law. now why would that not apply to nonchristians?
Because God identifies that adultery is sinful; but the laws of the Church (when it comes down to particular details) identify what is adultery and what is not. So, adultery is always sinful. When we’re talking about sex outside of marriage, in general, we’re always talking about sin. But, when we’re talking about difficult situations – that is, situations on the ‘boundaries’ of the law – the Church will, naturally (since they have the authority to regulate the sacraments), make pronouncements that have an effect on what is considered ‘adultery’ and what is not.
Why would it not apply to non-Christians? On one hand, God’s law is God’s law; marriage was intended to have certain meanings. Yet, marriage is also meant to be a sacrament; and that meaning, properly speaking, applies to Christians. So, if we wish to speak about the responsibilities of non-Christians in marriage, we have to distinguish between sacramental responsibilities and natural responsibilities. Moreover, we have to recognize that non-Christians aren’t bound by Catholic canon law. (In a manner of speaking, the question we’re asking here is akin to asking whether I, as a citizen of the U.S., am bound by the laws of Canada. Clearly, I’m bound to moral standards that are common to all humans; but, can I be coerced into obedience of Canadian law, as I sit here in the U.S.?)
So, the question is, at the very least (!), rather complex. But, if we distinguish between natural law and ecclesiastical law; and if we distinguish between Catholics, non-Catholics, and non-Christians, we can come up with reasonable distinctions in terms of responsibilities and jurisdictions…
we wouldn’t support homosexual weddings of nonchrstians would we? or abortions of nonchristians? they don’t necessarily know they’re sinning either
The notion of same-sex weddings speaks to natural law; that is, to God’s law that applies to everyone. So, too, do abortions – everyone is called not to murder innocent human life. In these cases, it’s not a matter of Church (i.e., ecclesiastical) law; it’s not the case that only Catholics should not murder – all people are called to hold to this same standard. That’s a different standard, of course, than the ecclesiastical standards for a valid Catholic (sacramental) marriage…