[quote="Advocatus_Fidei, post:9, topic:189157"]
Unlike the others here I do not consider your husband mentally ill, at least not just from what you have told us here. There are plenty of sane people who do what he is proposing, he is just misdirected. It is prudent to plan for a disaster, but you cant live your whole life waiting for a disaster that may never come in your lifetime.
Marriages are about compromise. You can obey him in a way that at the same time redirects him to a better end.
AS far as selling everything you can compromise, point out to him you still need to live your life's today and tomorrow, there is no need to create a survival situation before one has occurred. But to show respect him and take him seriously you are wiling to store up a years worth of food, the Mormons are a good source of information for how to do this as it is part of their religion, and convert say 5% of your savings into gold.
With the guns for example, if your husband is not a violent man, you could agree to him getting a gun but only on the condition that he is going to take up hunting and use it to put food on the table at least that way the gun will be earning its price if a disaster does not happen. Then in year or two if he agrees to use a second gun for hunting also again you could agree to that. Say for example he gets a rifle first year to hunt deer and the second to third he gets a shot gun to hunt birds. Point out to him this is all good training if he ever did need to survive using those tools, because the time to learn to hunt is now not when you need it to live or die.
Just getting him out of the house hunting will calm him down, he will have less time to think about all the bad things that can happen and at the same he will be more confident about his ability to look after his family which should make him more relaxed. If he refused that compromise then no guns.
I don't consider myself mentally ill and I plan on my home eventually having at least three guns, they are just tools and different guns suit different purposes. The advice on guns is based on the assumption that you trust him with a firearm however, only you can know that.
As far as moving goes from a survival standpoint that is not necessarily a good idea. He needs to adapt his plans to his abilities for one, what wilderness survival skills does he have that will allow him to prosper in the country, because most people who live in cities cant last a week once the supplies they brought with them run out.
Suggest to him he looks into Urban survival, many survival experts now teach that the best chance of survival is to stay in the cities, as long as your home is adequately prepared staying there gives you a far greater chance of survival then running out to the country where you have neither knowledge, skills or resources to survive.
Explain to him that Emergency rations are just that emergency rations, they are only meant to be used short term, using them over a pro longed period will make you get sick, tinned food and long lasting foods like grains etc are much better as long as your store them right and as their expiry date comes close you can eat them and replace them with new ones so again they dont go to waste. Again the Mormons are great sources of information for this.
Another thing you an suggest to him is that if he wants to get all this stuff he should get a second job and he can buy whatever he wants out of the wage he earns at that.
Those are just suggestions you know your husband better than me, you need to judge whether he would respond positively to any of the above or not, and whether they would be a better response than just flat out refusal.
Wow, this is all really good advice! I mean that quite honestly! Are you something of a 'survivalist'? You are very knowledgeable. I think I'm going to propose these ideas to him. I would not be opposed to storing, well, three months worth of food. I can tell him that once we have the three months worth of food stored, we'll see how much space that eats up in our basement and then, if we have room, add another three months worth.
I do like your gun suggestion, too! I wouldn't be opposed to owning one. One. And, of course, since we live in Michigan, there are AMPLE opportunities for him to hone his hunting skills, if that's what he would like to do. I think that's a great compromise! I think, honestly, if he wants to take this 'survivalist' mentality seriously, he needs to also take up fishing. I'm not kidding. And you're right. He's never fired a gun in his life, I don't want whether or not I eat to depend on his abililty to learn that skill in a day. If he wants to be able to hunt, he can start now. Venison stew is quite tasty. he'd be completely trustworthy with a firearm, and very safe with one, too, of that I'm sure, so that's not the problem.
Interesting points about urban survival. I thought the same thing! I mean, here, in our house, we have everything we need. Even right now, we have probably enough food in the pantry, bottled water, candles that sort of thing to last us a couple of weeks!! And of course, we're near hospitals, people we know, resources. Though my husband is quite the outdoors guy, I agree with you - I think after his initial supplies ran out, we'd be in trouble.
Thanks for the advice!!