Stopping Masturbating

Hi new here, l have been struggling with masterbation on and off for a while, l’m 27 and not married. When l am faithful to myself for a few months its very difficult. . . . l address this by doing some exercises which helps but sometimes l give in and commit a sin, l find it difficult to confess as its so personal, but find it easier to discuss here because its kinda private, thanks for listening, l feel better even having done this

  1. Talk to your confessor.
  2. Talk to your doctor, as you may have a medical condition*.
  3. A gun will not fire without a trigger. Identify the triggers and remove them from your life. Note: This may include web time, magazines, cable, movies - whatever visually stimulates you. .

*I address a possible medical condition or potentially Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. Both of these are 100% treatable.

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That’s not really a reason to get married. If you’re not getting married so as to have a permanent, fruitful, and exclusive union with your spouse, you’re not intending it rightly.

-Fr ACEGC

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I didn’t say it was. I said it solves the problem.

You said, and I quote:

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The bible states to marry if you are burning with lust. I meant it the same way the bible does. Of course it is not the ONLY reason to marry.

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Hey I know this may seem unrelated, but I struggled with porn at an earlier time in my life. For what its worth, I started wearing the miraculous medal, saying the rosary everyday, and going to confession every couple weeks until I could control my urges. Today I honestly can’t imagine going back to that previous life. You should try it.

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Being married does not solve all those problems. Marriage is not a be all answer for all problems because marriage itself has many challenges.

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It solved this problem. Again, I didn’t say it was the answer to all problems.

If someone came into my office to start marriage prep, and pointed to that passage in the Bible as the reason why they wanted to get married, I would be obligated in conscience to refuse to allow them to get married until such time that they understood what marriage was.

The passage doesn’t say “you should get married to avoid hormones,” it says “it’s better to marry than to burn with lust.” It doesn’t mean that marriage is a surefire remedy for lust that must be pursued so as to avoid it.

-Fr ACEGC

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I didn’t say that would be THE reason. Where are you coming up with these inferences in my posts? lol

Maybe the part where you said:

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Those problems refers to the posters problem! LOL

It’s not a reason.

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Sure is one reason…sure is. Bible says it is A reason.

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Yes Father it’s the word “all” in his response that makes a great bit of difference in what is implied.

And that doesn’t change the fact that you’re wrong. You shouldn’t just tell someone to get married to solve their problems with sexual sin. I don’t get how you don’t see it’s wrong whether you mean in general or in particular, unless you’re just being intentionally obtuse so you can try to gainsay me and win an argument.

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My implication was that getting married is a solution to the problem…not THE solution, nor the only solution as you inferred. I also offered more practical tips in the meantime.

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We know that. You’re wrong. Badly wrong.

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No, that’s a misinterpretation of what the Bible says. Listen to Fr. E.

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