[quote="Kathryn_Ann, post:5, topic:265877"]
Best wishes to you in your faith journey. You will find your way!:angel1:
I would trust your feelings: if you felt pressured, it may not have been their intent at all, but it may be that you are truly not wanting to rush things. Communities and orders vary with the people within it, but all are worthy.
I took a few months looking into various orders, studying carefully all their rules and communities for laypersons. Then I did my best to contact the people within each order, just to have a talk before I attended any meetings. Two of the groups (which I did not choose) were in a kind of competition with each other, albeit a very friendly one. They both had rather rigid schedules but were willing to talk to me so that I could get a sense of what was expected of me and how long the formation process would take.
A member of another group (to whom I spoke with over the phone, had (unbeknownst to me,) just left that particular group after some kind of tiff. Bad vibes all around. Another group never answered a simple email or phone call. Doors seemed to be closing, until....a window opened.
I found it: A cheerful, welcoming, intelligent and warm group of people excited to hear about my interests in their community. Theirs is a gentle program, and I had no doubts. Trust your feelings. What may be fine for one person may not be the right fit for you, and God knows you inside and out. He will help you find your spiritual "home," and with prayer (and a sense of humor) you will find your way.
After all, Christ Himself is our destiny, and He is patient with us if we are honestly seeking the best way to serve Him in the world. Every order is blessed, each person a child of God, but you too are uniquely gifted, and it's important that you feel comfortable in your choice.
Novice Oblate of St. Benedict
Thank you Kathryn.
The people there were really welcoming. But as Julia Mae said, I probably saw visitor as something else.