Hey Morning Star, my confirmation name is also Maximilian Kolbe! Right on!
I feel for you. You asked for some perspective, so let me try and give you some. Yes, breakups always hurt, there’s no doubt about that. I myself have never had a breakup–I’ve never dated, even–but I have had a few “close calls” where I thought I was totally going to get the girl and that we were made for each other, but then at the last second she rejected me. It’s not the same, I know, but at least I have some idea of what you’re feeling.
You’re about 21 and in college, right? Unfortunately for you (and for me, incidentally), women of your dating age are going through a time of tremendous change. They’re growing up, becoming more independent, finding themselves, etc. In other words, they exhibit all the catylists for a royal breakup! Don’t fret, pal. Once they turn 22 or so, they stabilize quite a bit. (And the same could probably be said for guys, too.)
It looks like you know that you must move on, which is good. But it’s knowing HOW to do that that’s so confusing, isn’t it? First, I agree that you shouldn’t maintain a friendship with this woman–but that doesn’t mean you stop treating her with the utmost respect. (I mean, what if she has gorgeous, available friends to tell about you? ) Keep treating her with absolute Christian charity, and you’ll avoid compounding your hurt with the guilt you’d feel if you stopped treating her right.
Speaking of those gorgeous, available friends of hers–you must keep your eyes open. In my humble experience, the best way to get over a woman is to meet another one. Right now, your emotions are telling you that this woman is the only person for you in the world. And that’s fine! That’s how God made us, and it helps us to stay in love with our spouses. But in your case, it’s just not true! There are so many other incredible, wonderful women in the world. Take a look at them. Open yourself to the possibility of getting to know them. Not necessarily in a dating sense, but just as people. You will discover that every woman (and every human being) is unique, interesting, and charming in their own personal way. And God willing, one of them might be your future wife.
Now that you’ll be single for a little while, take advantage of that time by exercising more, doing stuff with your friends, reading Scripture, practicing your talents, or whatever else you could do to make yourself more attractive to your future wife. It sure isn’t going to be easy, but I hope that my babblings help you out in at least some small way. Peace,