I usually try to let things not get to me as I understand I cannot control others and what they do but tonight I am struggling. A relative is telling friends about something that happened that only she and I know about (I admit, my reaction at the time was poor but I was extremely upset).
This relative is my elder so it makes it all the worse as I know if she is telling friends, it will get around to family members and I’ll look like the immature one. It wasn’t even an issue between us, it was an issue I was having and she just happened to witness my reaction.
I don’t know what to do. It’s like this one moment of weakness will be used against me for the rest of time. And after this moment, I’ve never spoken negatively about the said issue again. I asked her not to share it with anyone as it was a private family matter but she has never respected the privacy of what is said between us, and she’ll deny it if I confront her.
Sorry this is so vague, I just don’t want to be specific but am willing to share more through PM. I’m just hurt and feel exposed as if she shares this, who knows what else is out there about me.