I'm new to the forums and the such.
I am currently dating a wonderful woman, I am her first boyfriend, and we are both 23 years of age. This is not my first relationship.
I have a bit of background information. I have cheated on her. I confessed to her not through my own conviction and guilt, but through her inquiries and my confessing to them. We are currently not talking, and right now I am on a journey to get right with God again. The anguish I see in her eyes when I tell her the infidelity I committed, tears me up inside. However, she wants to wait for me. She says if I can find myself through Christ, and come back to her and demonstrate this, she will willingly follow me.
I go to church weekly, but I do not study scripture as I should, nor do I follow the Catechism as I should. I am taking this opportunity as a wake up call, to right my sinful ways. I want to become more learned of scripture and doctrine, so that I may more readily come to the table with knowledge and insightful observations.
She has an incredibly devoted servant to God. Raised as an Evangelical in a small community, she has been raised with some prejudices against the church. Mainly, she espouses the belief that through grace alone, we are saved from damnation. She does not see why we Catholics need to do "works" as she calls it, to get into heaven.
My initial conversations with her regarding the subject are inconclusive. I have a hard time answering her, but my feeble attempts are as follows: the seven Sacraments are guidelines for how we should conduct ourselves with Christ. Yet if we fall short, we can still depend on God's infinite grace and love to pick us up and help us to carry on. I have also maintained the belief that it is through grace in everything that allows us to fulfill these Sacraments, and not look on them as chores. Instead, they are things that I willingly do for Christ to stay close to him.
My girlfriend also maintains that there are parts of Catholic doctrine which confuse her, and trouble her. She says that some things in doctrine are contrary to those in the Bible. IE the infallibility of the Pope.
She has told me if I can reconcile these differences in her beliefs and what is actually espoused by the Church, she would strongly consider converting.
I pray that when my journey is complete, and I can come to her as a man of God, she and I may continue dating, and let this relationship lead to greater things. I am amazed by the grace she has extended me, and her undying support in helping me get through this, despite my numerous and devastatingly hurtful slights against her.
I know this is a lot, but any help would be most appreciated.