I feel like every time I am in a position to set a boundary, someone has a emergency and I end up stepping up to the plate anyway.
Right now I’m buried in 3 projects for a group my son belongs to - 2 of which I had NO intention of taking on…someone had an emergency and the next thing I know it’s “Heather’s a stay-at-home mom - she’ll do it!” and the message is left to me on FB or my answering machine that I’m needed to ______ on this day at that time. Not even a “Hope that’s okay” or “call me if there’s a problem”…and that’s just ONE group.
I have family coming to visit for the holidays, my house is a disaster from trying to keep up with these extra “projects”, I’m 3 weeks into my Catholic journey and in RCIA, my son (also 3 weeks in) is in Sacramental Prep for the year for Reconciliation currently, and I have these projects to button up.
I feel like I’m drowning.
How can I set boundaries against these “emergency” problems without seeming like an uncharitable person? I don’t mind helping when I have the time but just because I’m a stay at home mom doesn’t mean I have to pick up every project other parents need to drop for whatever reason they deem worthy!