Struggling with infertility!


#1

Hi everyone,
My wife and I have been trying for 7 months with no success. We’re remaining patient, knowing that success could take years (or could never happen). Nevertheless, I want to make sure I’m taking all the right steps now.

A little background: My wife is 26, and I am 25. Two years ago, my wife stopped taking birth control pills after I joined the Church and she renewed her faith. After she got off the pill, we saw a counselor for the Creighton method of NFP, but we were quite frustrated when my wife rarely experienced cervical mucus. We were not opposed to getting pregnant, so we more or less abandoned NFP. For the last 7 months, we have been actively trying to conceive with no success. I believe we are doing things correctly, having sex every other day in the week before ovulation and every day in the few days before and after ovulation. According to an ovulation kit, she is ovulating every month.

Once we began trying to conceive, she started taking Optivite PMT, and last month she began taking Evening Primerose Oil, with the hope that it would improve her CM. Since starting on Evening Primerose Oil, she has noticed a slightly increase in her CM. I have read Fertility, Cycles and Nutrition by Marilyn Shannon, and incorporated all of the general advice she gave (which is where we got the idea to take Optivite PMT).

The past six months going backwards, her period has been approximately 28, 30, 31, 31, 33, 24, and 24 days long. Her luteal phase for the past three months has been 13, 11, and 12 days (although I’m not sure we’re counting it correctly–we’re starting counting the day after the positive ovulation test to the first day of her spotting).

My wife’s last annual pap smear was normal. We have not seen any medical providers regarding fertility. Neither of us have any known medical problems, and we are both healthy, have normal BMI, exercise regularly and pay close attention to what we eat (except the full-fat ice cream we eat every night because we heard that’s good for fertility!)

Should we seek medical help? Is there anything else we ought to do? Thoughts? Thanks!


#2

I had no cervical mucus starting about 4 months before I got married. I chalked it up to gaining lots of weight very quickly in the months leading up to the big day. However, it was concerning and I worried that it would lead to problems getting pregnant since we were wanting to try for a baby right away. We didn't get pregnant until we started using pre-seed lubricant. It's supposed to mimic a woman's fertile cervical mucus to help the sperm swim properly. It worked the very first month we tried it! I thought it might have been a coincidence, but a news article published recently confirmed what their packing had said - that regular lubricants immobilize the sperm and prevent as much as 80% of them from ever having a chance to reach the egg. Pre-seed was proven not to have that problem. I would really suggest giving it a try. It certainly couldn't hurt!


#3

Just pray, be patient, and know that it will come.Take your time and enjoy the process. I know it can be very frustrating, but you will apreciate you child so much more. I don’t know what methods you have been using, but there is a lot of useful information on the internet. This one site seems to have some useful information.
www.Why-Cant-I-Get-Pregnant.org

I hope this helps,

CR Hays


#4

Two mucinex daily, one in morning and night…vit B6, and lots of water.


#5

My husband and I are almost exactly where you are with TTC. We have been trying to 7 months with no success. After our last month of trying I decided to make an appointment with a Catholic fertility specialist. I had a sonogram done to check my anatomy and we had a Vatican approved semen analysis done as well. Both might be helpful for you. We are trying progesterone to see if that will help me keep a pregnancy. I would suggest trying a fertility specialist who is sensitive to your religious practices and who specializes in Naprotechnology. Its a Vatican approved method. If you google search it a lot of great info comes up. Good luck! :slight_smile:


#6

Hey camerong

Trust in God’s will for you and pray for help from Our Lady. My wife and I have been married for 11 years with no children. We started the adoption process several {tears} ago and were told it would take about 15-24 months. 41/2 years later this past June we finally were off to China to pick up our 10 month old(Veronica Su Su). Do everything you can within “Catholic” reason to have a child but my only regret about adoption is I should have done so much much sooner. God has brought us so much happiness with Veronica!
I just wanted to encourage you and offer you other possibilities!
God bless you and your wife!
My wife and I will offer up our next rosary for the two of you!


#7

I understand your anxiety, but it is a little early to do anything other than what you’re already doing (although the above suggestion of taking n over-the-counter mediine that loosens mucous is a good one). It can take two years or even longer for a woman’s body to start funtioning again after taking the Pill, depending on how long she took it and her own body chemistry.

Is your wife doing basal body temps and charting to see if she’s ovulating?

If you get to a year with no success, then you ought to look into the Pope Paul VI institute, a Catholic medical group that treats infertility.


#8

[quote="Charlotte1776, post:2, topic:224703"]
We didn't get pregnant until we started using pre-seed lubricant. It's supposed to mimic a woman's fertile cervical mucus to help the sperm swim properly. It worked the very first month we tried it! I thought it might have been a coincidence, but a news article published recently confirmed what their packing had said - that regular lubricants immobilize the sperm and prevent as much as 80% of them from ever having a chance to reach the egg. Pre-seed was proven not to have that problem. I would really suggest giving it a try. It certainly couldn't hurt!

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We used Preseed as well. We had been using another lubricant and did not get pregnant the first month we tried. 2nd month with preseed worked like a charm. With the second we didn't use anything as this one was a little unplanned.


#9

Any update here?


#10

Pope Paul VI institute....

and Lourdes :)


#11

Unfortunately, no luck for me. Sigh.


#12

Camerong, what you are experiencing is so frustrating!

Get back together with your Creighton instructor, and have her refer you to a properly trained medical consultant or consult with someone at the Pope Paul VI institute. There may be more going on here than just insufficient mucous. And, have yourself checked out by a good urologist, if you haven't already. Your Creighton instructor can help you navigate that little minefield, so you can avoid moral pitfalls. Also, read that new book by Dr. Hilgers. It may not decrease your frustration, but it will help you understand your situation and the possible reasons for it a little better. He devotes some time specifically to those ovulation tests. He finds them unhelpful in many cases.

It will take time to get answers, but it's worth doing, if only to find out what underlying health issues you and/or your wife have. Sometimes the wondering why is the worst part.

Visiting Lourdes isn't a bad idea either, if you can. Go during the off-season, and make sure you get to see the shrine at night. :)

Whether you can make a pilgrimage to Lourdes or not, offer the suffering that you and your wife experience to God. I know, I hate it when people tell me stuff like that. It's totally easier to say than to do, but it does actually help when I do it, especially if I have a specific intention. It doesn't seem so empty that way.

You are not alone!


#13

BTW, you don't have to wait for the standard year to go by before you start looking for a diagnosis. Our Creighton instructor said that they consider you to officially have a problem if you have had fertility focused intercourse for only 6 months with no success.


#14

[quote="Lucky_Scrunchy, post:4, topic:224703"]
Two mucinex daily, one in morning and night...vit B6, and lots of water.

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this, and preseed :thumbsup:

KG


#15

Please don't try to guess what's wrong, and opt month after month to try random things that worked for other people.

Both of you get a complete physical... have the tests done, see if there is something wrong and treat it if possible.

I will pray for you that things go smoothly, and that your wife is expecting sooner than later!


#16

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