Struggling with Sexual Immorality


#1

After almost six weeks of not falling into sexual immorality, I have succumbed to temptation again. I ask for everyone’s prayers as I struggle against the sins of pornography and masturbation.

I ask that you pray for grace, strength, perseverance of faith, and the ability to forgive myself and get back on my feet after I fall. I also I have an anxiety disorder. I have found relief through counseling and medication, but I ask for you prayers that I am able to work through these issues. Thank you.


#2

I will pray for you and healing…


#3

After almost six weeks of not falling into sexual immorality,

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I have succumbed to temptation again

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That’s five weeks, six days and twenty three hours longer than some of us can make it!

I will most certainly pray for you!


#4

Don’t say you will fall down in this case. This is very possible to beat and you may not fall down here. Acting like you will fall down here is already a step to rationalizing this sin and is how satan gets his foot in the door.

When you fall, then ask that your stumblings are given direction.

It’s interesting you should mention that it has been 6 weeks. i’ve noticed in my own life i usually am tested on this sin about every 2 months. Sometimes i stand, sometimes i fall.

Mary and Joseph, Jesus’ parents, are great models of chastity and are definitely worth keeping in your prayers during this trying time.


#5

Praying for you Mario…If you’re a Catholic, make use of the Sacraments.Don’t give up.

I heard a great talk by Father Corapi today. He spoke about addictions and man’s slavery to sin. He basically said that Freedom = Truth = Christ. You shall know the Truth and it will set you free. Don’t let this thing enslave you, stay close to Christ.

Peace and drop me a note if you want to talk…


#6

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Hail Mary, full of grace
the Lord is with thee
Blessed art thou among women
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb,
Jesus,
Holy Mary, Mother of God
pray for us sinners
now and at the hour of our death
Amen.

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#7

“Fall seven times and stand up eight.” - Japanese Proverb

I recommend you to be steadfast in your journey by availing yourself of the Sacrament of Reconciliation and by the reception of The Holy Eucharist.

These are powerful means thorugh which to receive God’s grace and to strengthen your resolve.


#8

Mario,

I will indeed pray for you. I too suffer from this devilish temptation…I just wish I could go six weeks and Need prayers too. I was discerning a calling to the Priesthood as a youth but laid it aside (ended up married) due in part to this temptation. I will pray for you as I ask that you pray for me.

Google the the Jesus Help Me Prayer…and the St. Joesph Nine day Novena.

I am on day 1.


#9

Having been there myself, the most important point is to not give up! Secondly, I would get some of the works of people like Drs. Anna Terruwe and Conrad Baars on healing the unaffirmed, there could be some real valid psycholgical reasons why you keep repeating this problem. These two psychiatrists based their practices on the mingling of science and the philosophy and spiritual theology of Thomas Aquinas.
Are you suffering from depression? The reason why I am asking this is because, if you have any neurotic tendencies (as I did) until you come to the understanding that God loves you as His child, and that what you do must proceed from the fact that you are a prince of Heaven, the problem will keep on going. I had to learn how to finally admit (like many in the twelve step programs do), that without God, I could do nothing.

Also, stop watching the mass media and be very careful about what you are reading on the internet. I found out that I had a bipolar condition, but I did not accept much of the current psycho-babble that says you cannot be healed. I was healed by the Holy Spirit, but only after I looked to Jesus as my model for what it is to be a man, and not to people like those who appear on their own talk shows or on PBS. Hook up with groups like The Amator League, which seeks to affirm you in your masculine spirituality. You can find this group if you look up Fr. Phillip Chavez.

In my own parish we have just started a men’s spirituality group which is meant to pray together and to attack tough problems, such as this one. Keep visiting Our Lord in the Blessed Sacrament. Rather than seeing yourself as a terrible sinner, see your self as a child of God and a giver of the Holy Spirit.

Satan wants you to be ashamed of your humanity, do not let him succeed in making you believe that this trial cannot be overcome.

Get involved working with the poor, and do not isolate yourself too much. When you focus on giving to others, you will concentrate less on yourself, and your tendencies will lessen.

Turn to Our Lady, with all your heart! Consecrate yourself to her. She who is not only the Immaculate Conception is also the spouse of the Uncreated Immaculate Conception, Who is the Holy Spirit. I made my consecration in my early twenties and, although I fell numerous times, she always drew me back! She never gives up on her children and remember, we are in a spiritual battle! If you are wounded or weakened, get back up and fight!

We do not fight with guns, spears and arrows, however, we fight with the Love of God, Who is the Holy Spirit.

At any rate, once I stopped seeing God the way I saw my earthly father (who was very conflicted and unhappy), I fully submitted to Him and it was in my sinful self that He found me, and slowly healed me.

I wrote “slowly,” because I did slip a few times during the healing process. The final healing did happen during a healing Mass celebrated at my parish. It was nothing spectacular, and the Holy Spirit is very gentle.

One thing Our Mother Mary keeps telling me in the interior life is to “slow down.” In this world of almost instant everything, remember, we must learn to operate on God’s time, not our own. Look at it this way, is there some area of your life that would tend to make you proud if you were able to overcome this problem area of yours?

I found out that much of my false relgiousity was keeping me from admitting that I had a big problem. Also, never fall into the trap that you are unworthy (this is a ploy used by the evil one to keep you from going to confession and seeking help) . And, keep going back to the same priest, who will work with you. I remember going from parish to parish, because I felt so embarassed and I did not want anyone to know about what I did.

I will pray for you brother, as I have nothing but compassion for you, because I have been there my self. Please ask the Holy Spirit to dispose you to work with His Grace. Amen.


#10

That I, Paul, might not become too elated… a thorn was given to me, an angel of Satan, to beat me, to keep me from being elated…Therefore, I am content with weaknesses…for when I am weak, then I am strong. (2 Cor. 12: 7-10)


#11

I know the feeling trust me. I suffer from the same sins at times. The longest I made it was about 6 weeks as well. I hope to make it again and further as I suspect that point is the roughest temptation then it’s downhill from there. I could only hope. It’s a horrible urge/addiction to overcome especially if you have been doing it since puberty at 12 or 13 like I have before I even knew what it was.

As natural as I felt it was, I also felt some sort of guilt (sign of divine law perhaps?) before I even knew there was even a term for what I was doing and years before I even knew the church declared it sinful then come to find out a mortal sin! :frowning: (my sex ed in middle school failed to mention masturbation, maybe because it is assumed healthy?)

I do find the opinion of various priests on this matter do vary but I guess what it says in the catechism is the final true answer.

I would like to believe that it being a long acquired physical habit would lessen the culpability in terms of it being a mortal sin but I can’t count on it and use it as an excuse. I just pray for more grace and mercy.

If I withhold I find myself thinking sexual thoughts more often so it’s almost a no win situation. The only justification I could offer is that it clears my head of sexual thoughts and tension that is incessant otherwise. I know it doesn’t make it not a sin but it’s like I’m stuck and don’t know what to do but “suffer” and bear it. I guess that is what we are called to do as catholic Christians.

Trust me you are not alone. Just go to confession when possible and try and do your best again and again. That is all you can really do as well as pray. I seek comfort in these forums and it almost always helps me out. You are in our prayers.


#12

I will pray for you, brother, and I ask that you pray for me as well. As my priest has told me coutless times, this is the beauty of our church, that we pray for one another.

Domine Iesu, dimmite nobis debita nostra. Salva nos ab igne inferiori, et perduc in caelum omnes animas, praesertim eas, quae misericoriae tuae maxime indigent.

In nomine Patris, et Filii, et Spiritus Sancti. Amen.


#13

Six weeks? Good for you! Keep at it! :slight_smile:

I pray for you, and I ask you to pray for me in keeping chaste as well.

PATER NOSTER, qui es in caelis, sanctificetur nomen tuum. Adveniat regnum tuum. Fiat voluntas tua, sicut in caelo et in terra. Panem nostrum quotidianum da nobis hodie, et dimitte nobis debita nostra sicut et nos dimittimus debitoribus nostris. Et ne nos inducas in tentationem, sed libera nos a malo. Amen.


#14

Prayers…


#15

Hail Mary,
full of grace,
the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the Fruit Of Thy Womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen


#16

Praying.


#17

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