Sorry if this question will irritate a few people…
I’ve read many questions on this forum from people who had heart-wrenching questions about marriage, divorce, mistrust and deep hurt. (A couple of questions have been my own!) I’ve seen some people offer truly heart-felt advice, and I’m so grateful for everyone who posts.
However, more frequently than I think is helpful, someone will post “You need to go see a counselor” as their only suggestion. Not that it isn’t good advice, but I think the person who posted probably knows that’s an option. The fact that they’re posting the question probably means they aren’t at the point where they’re ready to do that yet.
If the person suggesting counseling is saying so from some experience, then it would make sense for the person to say “I understand your problem and have had a similar one. My husband and I went to a counselor because we had tried just about everything else. The counselor helped us to…” and so on. That would be so much more helpful and compassionate.
I don’t mean to be down on counselors, but I know that the best counsel comes from God, and that after that, I find it most helpful to talk with or hear from people who have been in similar situations.
Feel free to argue with me or even agree. (I’ll probably get flamed on this!) I really like this forum, and I’d like to see it be even more helpful than it is. I guess I’m trying to provoke some deeper thought on some questions.