[quote=martino]I agree that this is a good opportunity for you to be a witness to the faith. You certainly have your work cut out for you. This girl probably has no idea what she is in for if she thinks you are just going to explain how NFP works! I do not expect that she will be particularly open to hear what you have to say, but it is good that you will say it anyway.?
No I don’t think she does, and he said he is going to leave us ALONE…Muhahahahahahahaha:D I don’t know why, but I have this strange feeling that she WILL be open, I can’t explain …
[quote=martino]I do have a few questions for you: If he wants to have premarital sex, why would he want you to talk her out of it? And if he is against having premarital sex why doesnt he just tell her so himself and not have sex with her? Or does he just want you to talk about NfP and nothing more? It seems that you do better to first convince him that premarital sex is wrong, and then maybe help him convince her. Afterall, if you are the only one among the 3 of you that is against it, I do not see how that is going to affect what they do when you are not there.?
I don’t think he knows that I intend to speak with her about the dangers of premarital sex.:whistle: He is not against premarital sex. He didn’t even say that he wanted me to talk about NFP specifically, just to inform her about ABC. He doesn’t like the idea because of potential side effects, possible infertility etc. His concerns are based on a health standpoint, not a moral one. He doen’t know what can happen if you put a lukewarm Catholic at a table with an informed Catholic and say “why don’t you guys have a little talk.”
As for convincing him, it is difficult because he does not regard the Bible or the Church as authoritive, another reason that the strides he has made in his spiritual walk (in my first post) are that much more awesome. He may have a long way to go, but God in His mercy has brought him a LONG wayalready. He, as we all are, is a work in progress.
I am betting on the girlfriend being the one to hear and embrace the Truth, being that she is already Catholic, and does attend Mass. I’m thinking she probably already feels a little guilty, and grace has shown it’s face by the fact she displays already an interior resistance to ABC, and even a willingness to talk with someone she doesn’t really know about such intimate things.
[quote=martino]I hope and pray that everything goes well and I support your effort. However you should expect to receive some backlash, the truth is never easy to take especially when it is unsolicited and by someone you don’t know.?
Thank you for the prayers, and if his girlfriend does respond positively than there might be a backlash from HIM. He will have technically have been …ahem…“cut off.”