[quote="Merie, post:1, topic:233067"]
My brother & sister-in-law are on the brink of divorce. We have been praying for them and offering support, but I am looking for advice, in that it's a new situation for us to deal with. He's a non-practicing Catholic; they were married in the church years ago. I have no idea if there was actual infidelity, but they have had a lot of stressful events and I am compassionate for them both and their two kids. My husband, on the other hand, is extremely angry about the situation.
So my question is: what do you think we could do to be supportive for them? And what should my husband & I do to prevent the "fallout" damaging our relationship?
It's going to be a rough road, so I have been praying for God's strength to keep me centered and be able to make good decisions.
Has your brother perhaps confided in your husband? Are you very close to them as a family? I'm just wondering why your husband is so angry. I mean, it's an awful thing to happen, but it's your family, not his, so...
I would resist taking sides, period. Do not stop your relationship with either of them and especially with the children. I would also reinforce that they took vows in front of God and that there are alternatives to divorce. Have they done any counseling at all? I hope they haven't gone to a secular marriage counselor because some of them will suggest separation instead of reinforcing the marriage as a covenant.
You could tell them that you will pay for them to attend a Retrouvaille weekend and you'll watch their kids while they are away. Many couples on the brink of divorce have been helped by going to one of these weekends and doing the follow-up sessions, even people who didn't want to go to counseling.
This has the potential to cause a lot of disruption throughout the whole family. Stay in prayer and communicate with your husband to find out why he's so angry. That will be a start.