I guess I should add the disclaimer that my husband has put his foot down on things and has been right. But I have put my foot down too. I don’t treat the man as though he is below me or that he can’t or shouldn’t make a decision. I also don’t pester him to make decision’s on things that don’t interest him. Like I said: it works for us. We don’t argue often. He shows me the upmost respect and I do the same for him. He is loving, he is a GREAT daddy, he is a perfect gentleman and a great lover too. He just doesn’t want to be “in charge.” In that I guess he is actually in charge! After all he works his butt off to support this family while simultaneously serving his country. He’s also currently working towards his BA in Criminology. A dad to three and another on the way.
Oh by the way, it was MY journey and commitment in my faith that led him to the Catholic Church. So women, your spirituality can be just as powerful and influential as the men’s! We are the perfect example. I didn’t push, cajole, or demand. I just went to church. Finished my sacraments. Became peaceful and happier than ever before. That rubbed off. That and the philosophies of certain Saints. But none-the-less I was an influence, but I did so without pushing at all. When he entered the church we had to remarry in it, and adding that sacrament and bringing God into the marriage has been WONDERFUL, it only made things better. Our roles with each other didn’t change, but our roles with God did, and that is the MOST IMPORTANT thing. It made us each happier, and able to make the other one even happier, and hopefully we are making God happy too.
Ditto that on the Protestant Faith taking it a bit further than we do, but it really comes back to Sola Scriptura. We have scripture and we have Sacred Tradition as well as encompassing idealogoies that focus on everyone in the faith. Like I said, I don’t want to read books that are not based in our faith. It’s a whole different ball game. Sometimes it feels like a whole different sport. Despite the fact we are all worshipping the same God.
I think my point is this: if we have conflict or if we have problems in our marriage then change is necessarry. If that means surrendering “power” or “influence” to our spouses in order to instigate that change than we should do it. If we don’t have problems, are happy in our marriage, have a good system worked out and the kids are thriving and doing great: we shouldn’t mess it up, or fix what isn’t broken. Especially if it’s because a book says so, Christian or otherwise, that’s currently popular. That’s all. I have a lot of respect for you ladies and all the info you have posted. Thanks!