The mistake is bombing raids without any clear commitment to victory.
In any bombing campaign people who are not targets are going to die. That is just going to happen no matter who is dropping the bombs into the populated areas that ISIS controls. I
If any nation is not hard enough to make those hard choices without experiencing an emotional breakdown every time a child dies, then the nation ought not to be bombing in the first place.
The only thing that would make the death of these innocent people meaningful is a commitment to victory and a resolve to wipe ISIS off the map, and to keep them wiped off the map, until every potential Islamists knows in their heart of hearts that choosing Islamism is choosing death.
I personally don’t think that America or any Western nation is hard enough to do what it takes to win the war that ISIS and Islamists are waging. Therefore, to drop token bombs without the resolve to win is simply wasting these innocent lives without sufficient cause.
It is a choice to opt to absorb the kinds of damage that ISIS does to Western countries with their rape jihad and their attacks on Nice, and Paris, and the Tube, and San Bernadino and Orlando, and on and on and on.
It is also a choice to commit to utterly annihilate ISIS in the Levant and lay to rest the dreams of a Caliphate permanently.
It is a mere pretense to carry on against ISIS the way that countries have been since the Syrian civil war began.
If people are not committed to win, then don’t even bother.