Ok, this happened Saturday afternoon, and I’d like some input on what you would have done in this situation.
It concerns a girl I’ve known since we were both in second grade. During my college years, she broke contact with me and about a year ago I was able to talk to her on the phone. She had two young children and was “married” to their father, but not in the church. And the things she has said since then, make me question whether or not they are even legally married.
So fast forward to Saturday. She showed up on my doorstep asking me to let her and the kids stay at my house for 2 weeks while her husband went to Houston to work for a restaurant. It really threw me for a loop, because the last time I had heard from her she was throwing the usual big plans around…med school…buying an overpriced house…you get the general idea.
I told her that I’d need to discuss it with my husband and we decided that we didn’t feel comfortable with the situation. For one, I’m not that close to her and I also do not trust this man she is with. Also, my husband found it disturbing that her husband was sending her to ask for help. So when she called back I explained that it wasn’t going to work, but I had a list of catholic charities and shelters if she was in that desperate of a situation.
Then more of the story started coming out. About her husband’s bad credit, how she couldn’t work because she had to stay home, how they’d lost their house because they didn’t make the rent, how her family didn’t talk to her, how they didn’t want to go to a shelter, etc. What was even worse was I discovered that her husband had intended to move into our house with them. So I gave her several suggestions of priests that I know can help her (and hopefully talk to the husband) and said I had a Walmart gift card she could have if she needed groceries or something, which she refused.
Do you think I did the right thing?