I live in what maybe regarded as the poorest of my city’s parishes, and I’m lucky enough to be blessed with reliable transportation. My parish receives a fair number of a requests from others asking for help in getting to Mass. Now, I’m the type of person even if I wasn’t Catholic, I would probably still help my neighbor get to Mass.
Lately I’ve been taking, let’s all her Melody, to Mass. I told her I attend 9 am Mass if it agrees to her, I would be happy to take her. I pick her up at 8:30 am and we get to Mass anywhere from 8:40 am to 8:45. Lately she’s been standing me up! I know she has several health problems (perhaps alcoholism) and she’s being influenced by her Mormon convert husband. She really needs to attend Mass to strengthen her spiritually, but lately I feel used. There are other people I said no to so I could take her. And in my eyes, from what I know, she’s the one that needs to go the most!
I’ve been trying to figure out how to approach her with the subject. I don’t want to embarrass Ms. Melody to the point where she’s uncomfortable. I don’t want to do anything to make her regret contacting the Church. I want her to know that she has a warm, loving family, but I’m thinking her heart is not there anymore.
This is the second time I’ve had a person bail out on me from going to Mass after making arrangements. I’m feeling sort of burned after all this, but I don’t want to turn into their stumbling block either.
If I were to tell her, that priorities have changed and that she should make other arrangements, am I guilty of causing her to sin, because she’s not attending Mass based on my unwillingness to continue the agreement?