How often do I meet with my pastor to discuss spiritual matters? The answer is: it depends. During difficult times, maybe several times in six months. Most of the time, not once in several years. And you want to meet yours for the second time in two years? Gosh, you are just eating up his time.
I don’t mean to be flippant about using a pastor’s time, but the priests I know consider being asked privately for spiritual guidance to be a major part of what they do. They aren’t counsellors or therapists, but they are usually happy to be one of the people you talk to about whether you might be helped by seeing one. They might not have time to become your spiritual director, but they can help you figure out how to find one. By profession, they help you navigate difficulties you have with the sacraments and joining in the life of the Church, too.
Besides, they know that sometimes all you need to hear is that struggling with sin is what everybody who bothers to tend to their spiritual life at all has to cope with. You may just need an expert on sin to tell you that mastery over sin is an on-going work, as much as to be expected as weeding is to be expected as a part of gardening, and that just because you find it tedious and exhausting does not mean that you’re doing it wrong.
When they see that what they have to offer has released the tension out of your shoulders and allowed the smile to come back to your face, believe me, the time is well worth it to them.
But yes: make an appointment, be willing to take his advice seriously, and don’t expect him to be your regular spiritual director unless you have a formal arrangement with him to that effect.